How about if we debate the difference between "I wasn't thinking" and "I was thinking of nothing"?

Anyone see a difference???

Sexism is okay, but racism is offensive?

C'mon, people, not everyone shares the same sense of humor. Which reminds me, maybe we can find a black pride forum and post some racist comic videos on there. It'll be fun!

CW, do you honestly feel my post was racist?

I thought that there was no way I would have written that email how you did.

And that you're right, "He has no idea how much better life can be with a happy contented wife that completely loves and understands him."

Loving him, in the way that I desire to be with him, that I want to understand him, I got that.

All the other loving stuff, I can't do on my own. Do you know what he did today? Announced that he was switching to late shift on Fridays again, said he knew I wouldn't be happy about that but he felt he had no choice so he VOLUNTEERED for it.

*dies*

Emotional "retardation" and logic are not related Mel.[/qyu9ote]

Exactly. What I call emotional retardation are people who attempt to use their emotions to run their lives in the PLACE of reason and logic.

[quote]Logic (true logic) stands apart from emotion. In theory a person who is able to use logic may or may not be emotionally "mature." What you said is like saying Mary can't ski because she has not learned how to jump double dutch. Please google the definition of logic & you'll see what I mean.

CW, do you honestly feel my post was racist?

Absolutely not. Where would you get that idea?

Try not to study each thing.

I don't think you understand what I am saying. A logical person may not have mature emotions, but the opposite extreme is what we see the most often, and that is ADULTS who use no reason and logic and rely on immature emotions for their decision making. Just imagine a hormonally challenged teenage girl who has no powers of reason. That typifies many adults in our culture today.

I don't feel the need to study it.

Unfortunately, I just have to live with it! Or not.

Independent Behavior = the conduct of one spouse that ignores the feelings and interest of the other spouse.

((raising hand))

I do.


Thinking about nothing is generally harmless. Your mind is empty...you are zoning out and taking a break.

Not thinking (esp when it comes to your S/O) is not considering them. It's inconsiderate / what we call "thouhtless"/ being a jerk. IBing really.

A speaker who uses sarcasm as a motivator is doomed to failure. Sarcasm is an aggressive humor device that reveals much about the speaker and is more likely to alienate and offend someone than it is to "get them to drink".

These gender diatribes--I'm curious as to why it is so important to emphasize our differences rather than our similarities? How many people post for quite some time before it is clear what gender they are? How many posters laugh about these stereotypes being switched in their marriage--ie "I'm the man and he's the chick"?

We are all human, after all, and these false constructs keep us fighting each other rather than helping each other. Why insist it's significant that men think differently than women? Don't we all think differently from one another?

MB doesn't get all wrapped up around these "differences." Act a certain way towards your spouse and reap the result. Period. Dr. Harley's gender comments are minimal and qualified with "may". He seems comfortable acknowledging that his comments apply to human beings, not genders. Might be why it works so well!

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Humor at another person's expense and then telling them they lack a sense of humor when they don't buy into it--dirty pool, old boy.