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I just discovered broken NC.
Do I expose now? I haven't really done a full exposure yet.
I was preparing do to so, but I have to go out of town for a few days. Do I wait until I get back or move forward and deal with the fallout later?
My StoryMe: 38 WW: 35 Married: 10yrs Kids: 2
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Zim, who do you have left to expose TO? Have you spoken to the OMW yet?
My suggestion would be to expose BEFORE you go so you will be GONE when all hell breaks loose.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My suggestion would be to expose BEFORE you go so you will be GONE when all hell breaks loose. SECONDED! Great advice. Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Planning on going the FB route. His and hers with an in-person visit with his parents.
I'm leaving in the morning so I guess I'll have to do this overnight.
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Agreed, expose now. Let her taste what life is like without you while your gone. Give you time to think.
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Planning on going the FB route. His and hers with an in-person visit with his parents.
I'm leaving in the morning so I guess I'll have to do this overnight. Have you exposed to: 1. her parents 2. close friends and siblings 3. the OM's wife 4. children over age 5 5. pastor, if any
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes to all of the above except the children. That will have to wait until I get back.
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Zim, what about contacting her parents again and telling them that contact has not ended? Would that help?
Also, here are some template letters to send to their facebook contacts:
Dear friend of Joe Scumbag,
It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of his friends should know the kind of person he really is. Joe had an affair with my wife, Sally, from Aug until September. I believe that his friends should know this, so you can protect your marriage from him. My wife and I have 2 small daughters and this affair has almost wrecked our marriage.
I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.
I would appreciate it if someone would notify his parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.
Thank you, BH
Dear friend of Skankyhola,
It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of her friends should be aware that Skanky is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for 5 years. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence.
I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.
I would ask that you use your influence with Skanky to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.
I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.
Thank you, BW
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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