NAH Chrisner, you are GENIUS too, just not in an EVIL sorta way.

Waywards like to keep score.

2pts to betrayed for sex in your car with OP.
1pt to betrayed for sexting OP.
1 pt to betrayed per every 1,000 TM's to OP.
817 pts to wayward for exposure.

Ah yes, but I do remember Wayzilla's Scarlette O'Hara, "Ah nevah meant to hurt you."

Waywards, you can't live with them and they make poor plow oxen.

Y'all are mean.

Chrisner, it's called EVIL GENIUS. HEHEHEHEHE

Besides is it an isult to cry like a gurl. We cry the bestest

Here's some more:

1 pt to the betrayed for finding the Wayward in bed with the OP
467 pts for the Wayward for being found in bed with the OP by the BS. It's a gross invasion of the OP's privacy!!!
.1 pt to the Betrayed for the wayward spending time with the OP
75 pts to the Wayward for the Betrayed calling the wayward on their timespent with the OP
1898 pts to the Wayward when the Betrayed reports the OP's whereabouts to the division of child support enforcement
450 pts to the Wayward when the Betrayed cuts off financial support and refuses to finance the affair

For those of us keeping score at home, in my exWW's view, she is leading about 2456 - 3 in injustices done. In court, where it matters, PSUBIKER is 6-0-1.

Oxen would be more useful to me at this point. For real. LOL!

I am a world class girly girl crying champion. I even cry at cartoons. True story.

We saw that Saturday! So fun! Saturday night we had a party at a friend's house, so we all trucked over there and hung out with pizza and watched the basketball tourney.

Sunday- I took the kids clothes shopping for spring. And some for mama. It was super fun!

I'd like to lodge a formal complaint about the Wayward Scoring System. Wonder where I'd address that letter?

You can't. Only waywards can lodge a formal complaint. Anyways, any issues are automatically your fault.

Okay.

So- last night- he comes over again, late. I didn't catch him in the garage, because I was asleep in bed, so he got up to me. Thankfully, my kids were asleep.

He tells me he love me so much, but that he is giving up on us, and moving to an apartment ( he's at his parents' house now). He is doing this to spare me watching him fall apart, because he will never ever be able to give up on her, or move on, or function, and he doesn't want to hurt me or the kids.

I don't get a chance to say anything, and then he launches into "because you hurt me in a way I can never get over by telling my OW the truth about the relationship, and I cannot forgive you for taking that control".

At this point, I say "Okay".

At that point, he starts arguing that I must not love him very much if I am just going to give up so easily and not fight for him.

So I tell him I've never been ready to give up on him, and it was my plan to fight for us forever.

Then he says " Why shouldn't I fight for her forever?"

I say I have no answer.

He proceeds to get upset with me and tell me how I have all this control over his life, and he can't stand it. I tell him he has control, he just has to take steps to get better.

He keeps telling me that I won. I ruined his life.

I asked him to leave. I told him he couldn't be in the house, because he's not doing what we agreed to.

He left.

I woke up to three phone messages about how much he loves me and wants me.

And a helluva lot of text messages.

Um, so, what do I do now?

Move to Tulsa? Leave no forwarding address? And buy a new puppy? Because seriously? That's about where I'm at.

See, I'm really not liking this setup. It seems inherently tilted towards nitwits.

LOL!

I don't know how you do it. You get the BS Award for Patience for the month of March.
What do you do now? What you've been doing. He's not going to move into an apartment. He is currently residing at Rock Bottom, USA. Nowhere to go but up for him.

He is going to be so embarrassed when he looks back on these days.

Is the BS Patience award big enough to cover the Evil Affair Killer T-Shirt he's making me wear?

Do you know?

I can't actually imagine him moving into an apartment, either. But there's a small part of me that thinks it might be good for him. I don't think he realizes just how alone he would be.

Keep doing fun things for yourself and kids, because it sure doesn't sound fun to be around him. I'm proud of you, pat yourself on the back! Continue with your broken record answer - "I will do whatever it takes to protect our family".

He is going exactly by the MB WS in withdrawal model so have lots of hope that the program will work.

My ex could only last 24 hours without contact and that was enough to drive me bonkers. I finally told him that he got himself into the mess and he could get himself out. I admire your fortitude.

Just my $.02 here.....

You need to go to a dark dark plan B. Don't read texts, change the locks on the door, don't interact with him AT ALL. He's getting something from you...even though he doesn't even know what it is....so don't give it to him.

Set up an intermediary who can filter all unimportant crap (anything other than necessary financial or child stuff)- and not have all the craziness filter through.
All his drama is going to seriously put your love bank in the red (even more than it probably already is).

Your patience with all this is admirable, and you sound like you're doing as well as possible, but I know this is all icky and hard and you deserve a BREAK!!!! Glad to hear of the retail therapy, by the way. And I want to go see that dragon movie with the kids this week!

And Chrisner is too evil, he's the one with the woodchipper!!!

How's this?

I can ask my dad to come back. I am sure he would. I can also rescramble the garage door opener. He has no house key ( there were two made- I am in possession of both).

I really need to work very hard at not replying to him. In the long run, not replying helps him more. It's just awful to watch him decompensating like this.

But he's gotta do it. I just hope the bottom comes soon. I am having a hard time staying on course.