Caught my wife having an affair, found chat logs, then phone records, even confronted the OM. I confronted my wife, she starts cursing at me and changing the subject. She then gets a restraining order against me on false allegations, which I fought and got the restraining order dropped. Why does she still stalk me online? Always looking at my facebook profile 10 times a day? Any ideas? I'll explain how I know this, keylogger, etc and it emails me the reports, which I do NOT check everday, can't handle that. Nevertheless, her boyfriend moved in after she got the RO against me, he's a cop btw, and encouraged her to get one, and so anyhow, why can't she just let me be? She also did something with a bunch of my electronics and says "I don't know anything about that" cuz she denied that she had them when I came to get my stuff. But why can't she just focus on the OM now that they are "together"? Please let me alone woman! LOL. she honestly scares the CRAP out of me!!

You can BLOCK her on FB.
Go to HER profile.
Somewhere under her photo (keep scrolling, sometimes it's way down there) there is an option :

block or report this person

click on it
follow the prompts to block her

Affairs feed on drama. Her adulterous relationship with the OM is something she's ashamed of. The only way she can justify it is by turning you into the bad guy and making you appear crazy. Between her need for drama and her need to "prove" that you are to blame for all her problems, she's likely going to be obsessed with you for some time. Can you imagine how thrilled she would be if you broke that RO?

Block her on your facebook. Block her email and phone numbers. Avoid her like the plague so you don't risk breeching that RO. And try to live your life as best you can.

Tabby, thankfully the RO was dismissed, HOWEVER, I would NOT give her the chance to make any further allegations against me so I will NOT go near her!!!

I TOTALLY AGREE with what you wrote about drama. She feels guilty and so she tries to justify her conscience by trying to make me look like a criminal, etc. yes, I did finally block her.. but I can't help but wonder what is she going to try to do NEXT? I just want her to leave me alone and have her fun with the OM! LOL!

I totally agree with tabby. Drama queen.

Larry

I would actually suggest shutting down your facebook page for a while. It could be that she's seeking information to damage you in court.

Depending on how obsessive she is, she may also be checking for your profile on dating sites, so don't join them! I know this may sounds dumb, but make sure she can't figure out your passwords.

A WW with a cop as the POSOM is a really bad combination for a BH. The cop knows enough of the law to be really dangerous and make your life miserable. Some things you can do to protect yourself:

1. BLock her from seeing your Facebook page.
2. Don't join the dating sites
3. If you are out and you have a beer or two, make sure you don't drive. You never know when the POSOM or a buddy of his will pop you for a surprise sobriety test.
4. Overall, just watch your back.

A friend of mine had a WW with a cop POSOM. He was looking over his shoulder for months.

And many cops are such good candidates for long term, loving relationships. (sarcasm alert)

Larry

Peter - when you came here originally several years ago, your story was so bizarre that I had you pegged for a troll.

I believed that no one could have their spouse-picker so off-kilter that you'd throw yourself into trouble the way you did.

But here you are.

Can I gently recommend before you go near anyone that you consider and get clear who you are and who you're not?

You're not a knight in shining armor helping damsels in distress; you do not have limitless power to rescue them from themselves, etc.

Read through your story - all of it. If you're for real, there are some excellent lessons for you to learn. If you're just having fun - well - you need a therapist or an agent.