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We told one child about husband's affair last night. Will be telling another child today. Both are teens.
Recommendations?
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Lots of hugs... lots of time...
The biggest question will probably be...
Are my parents going to get a divorce?
It will be BOTH your jobs to give them strength and security. But don't lie... don't say everything is 'alright'...
Tell them the truth. They will see it quickly anyway.
My children were much younger. We never told them about the affairs. I am unsure when or if I will tell them. But I think sometimes they need to know, but I don't want them to think 'less' of their mom at this point in their lives. When they are adults perhaps.
Lots of hugs and lots of time is all I can recommend. Consistency from both you and your husband will heal this faster than anything else.
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Thanks. You are right about their need for hugs, time, strength, security and consistency. However, I'm sure there are excellent articles written by Dr. Harley or others written for kids and probably books as well.
Can anyone recommend some?
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Delta, I don't of any books or articles, but I agree with Cant that the best thing for them is to be as supportive as possible.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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