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#2352135 04/10/10 07:00 PM
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How do/or should you go about confronting "toxic friends" who are enemies of your marriage? (these being WW's friend(s))


Married 23 yrs
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Rock__ #2352136 04/10/10 07:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Rock__
How do/or should you go about confronting "toxic friends" who are enemies of your marriage? (these being WW's friend(s))

You don't. Your wife is the problem, not them. If she cared about your marriage, she would not befriend ppl who were enemies of your marriage.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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So what can I do now?


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Originally Posted by Rock__
So what can I do now?

Well, in a good marriage a complaint is an opportunity for improvement; in a bad marriage it is an irritation.


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I don't understand.


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Originally Posted by Rock__
I don't understand.

Just tell your wife these friends of hers make you unhappy and ask her to dump them.


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Rock,

Is this a second WW? When last we parted ways, I thought you were going to go through with a divorce a year and a half ago...I must have really misread your posts.

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Originally Posted by Rock__
How do/or should you go about confronting "toxic friends" who are enemies of your marriage? (these being WW's friend(s))

Does Mrs Rock still drink alcohol?
Reading her/your old posts, alcohol was Mrs Rock's MOST crazy TOXIC friend.


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If she is still with her drinking buddies, then your wife and her friends are both toxic to the marriage.


So is alcohol.


Until she stops drinking, you have no chance. Nothing will change, because she will seek out people who support her drinking.


Those people, and she, will ignore your requests to stop or to change. They don't care about the marriage, because:

IT INTERFERES WITH THEIR DRINKING SCHEDULE.


Don't believe anything different.


SB


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Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.

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