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Isn't there another social network ....... My Space?
M'd 22 years
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Tried OM's wife's name and my W's also and no go. My wife's 15 year old daughter does have a page though. Not interested there. Go look on the 15 yr olds page and see if she is friends with your wife.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Been to myspace and checked the daughter's facebook... no go
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Google his name - maybe something will come up.
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Thanks for the leads... still finding nothing
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BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Pipl.com is getting me a few things... thank you
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Spokeo looks like another resource...
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You all have given me a lot to chew on here with the upcoming tsunami. Thank you for the straight shooting. Now to get the kahunas to pull this off.
Bottom line is that I don't want divorce and I really thought that I had met the love of my life. Now I'm a bit devastated at the lack of trust and integrity that she now personifies. And she does not even blink about any waning to her Christian walk. God loves me and He understands... It's where she is right now... scary if you actually knew her... This is not the person I've known for nine years.
Or was I actually in denial all this time. Awe crap...
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JAG Or was I actually in denial all this time. Awe crap... No, what you are seeing is what people do and say when they are kidnapped by aliens, in other words, when they are in their affair infatuation state. Larry
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Thank you Larry. There might be hope that the woman that I treasured might have been real and she might resurface one day.
I'm just totally wore out after 2 months of viscious attacks on my person.
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Thank you Larry. There might be hope that the woman that I treasured might have been real and she might resurface one day.
I'm just totally wore out after 2 months of viscious attacks on my person. Hi Jag. I just got back into town and have read your thread. Listen to the advice there. Exposure is your friend, and you need to do it in one fell swoop. You've already seen that your WW is going to spin whatever you say if you trickle exposure. It's got to be done all at once, as quickly as possible. They are co-workers. That will need to end. You need to expose the A to their employer.
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So according to the tsunami exposure I'm supposed to notify their workplace. That could get them fired and with this economy and the job market...
Right now I am out of the house and when we built the house 2 years ago we mutually decided to put the title in her name only. But it takes 2 incomes to make the mortgage. Right now with the Restraining Order I have decided to stop my contributions to the house. She used that against me in court that it is HER house. There is enough in the bank account to sustain the house for 6 to 9 months. I know that she is scrambling to find new creative financing and she may. Without help she will loose the house in 10 months to a year.
Should this drag out that long... am I doing the right thing by not supporting her. this seems more like Plan B but I never really got a chance at Plan A
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So according to the tsunami exposure I'm supposed to notify their workplace. That could get them fired and with this economy and the job market...
Do you want a potentially unemployed wife, or an employed ex-wife? Your call.
Right now I am out of the house and when we built the house 2 years ago we mutually decided to put the title in her name only. But it takes 2 incomes to make the mortgage. Right now with the Restraining Order I have decided to stop my contributions to the house. She used that against me in court that it is HER house. There is enough in the bank account to sustain the house for 6 to 9 months. I know that she is scrambling to find new creative financing and she may. Without help she will loose the house in 10 months to a year.
Why did you leave your home?
Should this drag out that long... am I doing the right thing by not supporting her. this seems more like Plan B but I never really got a chance at Plan A
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I don't understand fully:
Me: BS 52 yo
FWH: 51 yo
DS: 14 & 16
and is the A you are describing in the time line yours and ended in D?
if so what are you:
Recovering & Rediscovering what we almost lost
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So according to the tsunami exposure I'm supposed to notify their workplace. That could get them fired and with this economy and the job market... JAG, she will be fired anyway if they find out on their own if that is the case. If she gets fired it will be because of her affair and no other reason. They are being placed in legal jeopardy and have a right to know. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain if you expose this affair. I am very surprised you have not even called the OM's wife. Why is that, JAG?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I realize that my Plan status is screwwy so I'm trying to get a solid plan together. I'll do the tsunami exposure thing in 2 to 3 days and I'll be ready for the ugly.
The mortgage can sustain itself for 6 to 9 months and the house is for sale but highly doubtful it will sell.
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I understand the liability of the company now that you point it out. Hey I've been is quite a fog myself lately so clarity is not all that available.
I did try the OM's wife last week but she was not available. So I plan in it this week...
The hope I had was that my wife would come back on her own with me being just a 'her husband'... I konw... baffoon.
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JAG, while anything is possible, people are rarely fired for affairs. What usually happens is that they are called in and spoken to.
The things we are telling you to do are the things MOST LIKELY to save your marriage. These are the things we did to save our marriages. Exposure is the most potent weapon you have against the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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