the state is nc I know a few ppl that got a divorce down here with no children and it was still 1 year. but it is 1 year as if you were single and not married at all, as long as that is in the seperation agreement. I know someone that sped up the process by backdating the date of seperation. But either way I'm in no rush once the seperation is done she is free from ne and I am free from her and then in 1 year the divorce can be finalized. Also all assets and debts will be finalized in the seperation

Is the 1 year, or six months, still imposed if you file for adultery?

In many places, adultery gives you the legal right to end the marriage, with no qualifications. There is no waiting period. There is only the length of time it takes for you to agree, or disagree, on the separation of assets.

Well I figured Id do an update. Since I last posted my wife and I have seperated and talked very little, the only times we talk is when something comes up or we need something. I recently went through the phone bill and it seems like all text messaging and talking to the OM has slowed down, not stopped but they havent been talking as much (maybe their just seeing eachother more and dont need to text) but last time we talked she seemed like she had alot of regret and was very respectful and nice to me. I ended up giving her 1000$ cash to get on her feet and shes now looking for an appt while shes living at a friends. On a more positive note I decided to do something for my self and i bought a bike its an 07 suzuki gsxr 750 and ive been riding like crazy on my free time I drove out to the coast over the weekend unfortunately once I got there I realized I was alone and had no idea what to do so I got drunk and fell asleep on the beach. But ive been trying to surround myself with friends and get through this. Im going back to my home state next month and I will most likely be filing for the divorce there ( I am still a resident of that state and there is no waiting period or seperation time to divorce) My only thing is, now that shes showing some guilt and remorse, what if she ends up coming back before I file next month. I don't know if I could stick to my plan I think I'd be weak and take her back. And I'm pretty sure my family and friends would be so pissed at me because they all hate her. This is alot more difficult than I thought it'd be and it seems like its getting harder instead of easier, especially since now shes actually alittle less fogged up

You sir, need to go into a dark- DARK plan B. Plan B is to protect yourself.

Do not give this woman money or your attention for any reason.

Has she confessed all to you? Cried from remorse?.sp? Has she asked you for forgiveness for what she has done for you?

She is an abuser and a user. Unless she changes, there is NO chance for this marriage.