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Can I say I am in some way supporting those BS that need the light of day shined on their situation up front so they don�t waste any more of their precious life?
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I am sure I only know the tip of the iceberg.
Just not the same way you mean it.
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Ok, Ok. I�ll go away. Again.
Because you don't know how to do this?
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement.
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�Can I say you are trying to recruit members into your miserable club?�
Sure, but you would be incorrect.
I am trying to prevent them from joining any such club.
And for the record, I am not miserable at all now. Things look better and better the smaller my M gets in the rear view mirror.
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"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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And for the record, I am not miserable at all now.
You know yourself well enough to say this?
Are you sure?
You can make that judgment about yourself?
Well, OK then.
Good for you!
Let's allow the other adults, the former waywards, to make judgments about their personal state of mind as well.
Instead of YOU making it for them.
Absurd.
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i have never seen anyone ever say you can recover your marriage for sure - if BOTH spouses are here and working the y you have a better chance...if only one is working is kinda like - dieting with out exercise - you may see some results but its not a sure to work.....
In fact they say - these are the things you can do for yourself
you have no control over other people.
sometimes it works
if it doesnt plan D
I see that alot...i never see anyone ever see - take this magic blue pill and you will magically get a recovered marriage...doesnt work that way ...ever
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"You have mentioned this a great deal in the past, Aphelion. I can't help but wonder if you are drawn to these people in some way."
Oh come on. I am sure I only know the tip of the iceberg.
YES I PROBABLY ONLY KNOW THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG AROUND ME
They are like cockroaches. They are everywhere. Just look around carefully.
YES ITS ALL OVER THE PLACE
They even run for president.
SOCIAL OR POLITICAL STATUS DOESN'T SEEM TO MATTER PAGE 7 OF THIS THREAD. MY QUOTE In retrospect I would rather die from a sudden heart attack or get struck dead by a car than to go through the whole experience again turning from a WH to a FWH. YOUR QUOTE I firmly believe every last one of them would do it again if they thought they would get away with it. They are all sociopaths in their unique way. REALLY? Its been 22 years. How much longer till I go WH again?Nesre
M 29 yrs
DS 28 DD 18
Me 53 FWH FBS
MTA signed 5/11/2011
D final 5/16/2011
Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
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And for the record, I am not miserable at all now. Things look better and better the smaller my M gets in the rear view mirror. But you're still married. So the rear view analogy doesn't make any sense. Maybe the back seat...which is still attached to the front of the car. The message of MB is not that people can recover their marriages "no matter what". Your marriage would be a lot "smaller" if you got divorced. But you don't want to do that. Your choice. But don't blame MB for your choice. That doesn't wash. I keep thinking that some newly betrayed spouse, like my H was years ago, is going to come across your posts on a bad day, perhaps a day on which he's had to deal with a particularly stressful trigger. He's going to read your lousy generalizations based solely on your unremorseful, unrepentant wife and your choice to remain married to her. And it's going to hit him hard. Well that bothers me. pk
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May 2004 you came to this forum.
You were very hurt.
I spend my time trying to help you.
Now, 6 years later, you say this CRAP to me ?
How ungrateful you've become.
How hateful you're behaving towards me.
Yes, Aph, it's personal now.
You married a sociopath.
She ruined your life.
This forum did not.
Your choice to stay married to a sociopath has nothing to do with me.
I used to feel compassion for you.
But look at what you've become.
A reflection of that hateful woman you are married to, by choice.
You have become ugly, in the way your wife is ugly.
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From memory, the most positive thing I ever heard in Plan A and B was Believer constantly telling me "they nearly always come back", and that was normally closly followed by her saying "just go and make a good life for yourself and maybe he'll join you" And a few others telling me I was doing a good job at following the plans. Even when I asked specifically what my chances are, I was given statistics, analogies, links to stories to read. I was never given anything that lead me to believe that if I just tried X or just did Y I was succeed. At no time did I ever think (apart from late at night in my fantasy's) that 'IT' would work. I just knew it was the right thing to do, for me and for my children. Must of had really different people posting to me than you.
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