ok so i was on here about 3 months ago and took all the advice given me and it seems to have failed. I had to leave because after exposure she tried to put me in prison saying i was threatanig her and the cops. now she is being real cold and says that she didnt actually have the affair she admitted to but she said it to hurt me. well I am not doing so hot the suggestion for zanax is a must for this one but i dont have any lol. very dark lol but a lol at that.
I guess what i want is is plan a still working or was it in my case a total failure?
Hello Rathamar,
Did you register under another name 3 months ago? Your only other 6 posts under this name were made on March 1 (7 weeks ago) on a thread entitled
can she get over him? and from that thread it's difficult to determine what advice you actually took and applied.
I don't post much but when I see threads with zero replies after several hours, I trigger back to when that happened to me on my first post and try to find out why.
My first impression from what limited thoughts you have shared is that you have a very dysfunctional relationship. You also have a disconnect in your timeline regarding your threads posted here on Marriagebuilders. In addition, if you tried to implement a suggested action (exposure) without first learning about and getting all the details needed (solid proof of A), it's most likely not the advice that failed.
If you do have another thread under another name it would be good to combine that with your March 1 thread and move this post there. (Click on the lower right box marked "notify" and the mods can help you.) But if not, I suggest you move this post there and then explore the questions you asked and the suggestions given on that thread first.
Welcome back to MB, R1. Even if you disagree with the advice given, take time to try to learn and don't discount thoughts that may (or may not) work. You need a plan. If you post honestly and regularly others will help you formulate and act on a solid plan.
Read all the articles and Q & A segments here on this free web site until you understand the basic concepts. Then ask about what you don't get. The best advice you could take is to call the MB counseling center and get professional help. It may seem expensive but a divorce costs far more.
Best wishes in your endeavors,
Ace
