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A friend sent me the info on the song from Jaron Wood and the Long Road to Love - Pray for you. It is a perfect song for all of us BS's out there. It definitely brought a smile to my face!!!
Enjoy
Me:BW Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10 3DstepChildren24&20 PlanA:01/03/10 PlanB:03/25/10 D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
Kinda funny. Reminds me of that country song "Love you."
But I don't wish anything bad on my WW. I just hope she can find happiness. I feel that she's going about it in entirely the wrong way right now. But ultimately I want her to be happy, with or without me.
But I don't wish anything bad on my WW. I just hope she can find happiness. I feel that she's going about it in entirely the wrong way right now. But ultimately I want her to be happy, with or without me.
But I don't wish anything bad on my WW. I just hope she can find happiness. I feel that she's going about it in entirely the wrong way right now. But ultimately I want her to be happy, with or without me.
How old are you?
25. Why? Am I not burned and scarred enough by the world yet or something? I don't wish bad things on anyone. All I've ever tried to do is give my WW the best of everything. Sucks that she betrayed me, but I know I can be happy without her some day if I have to. I just wish the same thing for her.
25. Why? Am I not burned and scarred enough by the world yet or something? I don't wish bad things on anyone. All I've ever tried to do is give my WW the best of everything. Sucks that she betrayed me, but I know I can be happy without her some day if I have to. I just wish the same thing for her.
Me, 60. You sound young. I now have a different perspective than I had, when I was your age.
((( HUGS to YOU )))
Now, from the perspective of my gorgeous shiny white/bond hair ...
"Happiness" is not a goal. Happiness is a result of living a good and decent life.
If someone I care about finds "happiness" by means of cheating/lying/betrayal .... and otherwise betraying their own values ... Me wishing this sort of happiness for them is a betrayal of my love for them.
We want the best for our loved ones. Not "happiness" obtained in unethical ways.
DD pointed out this song to me when she heard it on the radio.
She also said "karma" when she heard WH's dog died.
There are consequenses to treating others bad. If a song makes people smile a little, then it's served its purpose.
We could probably think up better lyrics than a flower pot falling from the window sill or brakes going out.
How about WS being fired from their job? Or AP being hugely in debt? Or WS gambling away our house? Or WH and OW texting their private parts to each other and BS finding the photos? Or how about WH trying to run over his mother in a parking lot?
Wait -- these are all TRUE things.
Let me think of fantasy lyrics and I'll get back to you. And I don't wish a "happy" life to my WH.
A friend sent me the info on the song from Jaron Wood and the Long Road to Love - Pray for you. It is a perfect song for all of us BS's out there. It definitely brought a smile to my face!!!
Enjoy
Aside from the funny/sarcastic lyrics.... The video is gorgeous with a ton of production value.
My wife has repeatedly asked why I keep trying to save our marriage.
She points to several people like you who told their wives "I love you so much that I want to set you free so you can be happy". She believes this is noble. That's bunk. Those spouses were probably no more committed to their marriage either, but just didn't stray.
I agree with Pep. I'm trying to save my wife from a life of debauchery. She shouldn't be rewarded for her cruel acts with my blessing.
I have children and I'm trying to ensure they have a stable home and the best possible shot at life...not shuffled back and forth every week, not having their parents dilute their attention (or financial resources) on stepchildren when those children should have all the attention.
And I cannot give her permission to break her vows to God. I'll have no part of that one.
Giving up never accomplished anything and that's why so many marriages end in divorce and so many kids have broken homes.
Me BH 40 Her XWW 34 Married 12 years
Feb 09 - PA #1 (w/married alcoholic) Apr 09 - Started recovery, thought things were going well until... Jan 10 - PA #2 (w/different guy on Facebook) Dec 10 - Divorced Now - very happy; no regrets
A friend sent me the info on the song from Jaron Wood and the Long Road to Love - Pray for you. It is a perfect song for all of us BS's out there. It definitely brought a smile to my face!!!
Enjoy
Aside from the funny/sarcastic lyrics.... The video is gorgeous with a ton of production value.
Plus, he's a cutie.
Well done Missy.
Thanks Pep, He definitely is a cutie, I just thought it was a tad funny and hoped others would smile for a moment as I did. I certainly would not want my WH's brakes to go out - maybe
Me:BW Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10 3DstepChildren24&20 PlanA:01/03/10 PlanB:03/25/10 D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
My wife has repeatedly asked why I keep trying to save our marriage.
She points to several people like you who told their wives "I love you so much that I want to set you free so you can be happy". She believes this is noble. That's bunk. Those spouses were probably no more committed to their marriage either, but just didn't stray.
I agree with Pep. I'm trying to save my wife from a life of debauchery. She shouldn't be rewarded for her cruel acts with my blessing.
I have children and I'm trying to ensure they have a stable home and the best possible shot at life...not shuffled back and forth every week, not having their parents dilute their attention (or financial resources) on stepchildren when those children should have all the attention.
And I cannot give her permission to break her vows to God. I'll have no part of that one.
Giving up never accomplished anything and that's why so many marriages end in divorce and so many kids have broken homes.
That post was just excellent and so very true! You are a very wise hero, arkhawk!
A friend sent me the info on the song from Jaron Wood and the Long Road to Love - Pray for you. It is a perfect song for all of us BS's out there. It definitely brought a smile to my face!!!
Enjoy
Bwahahahahhahahaha! Loved the ending too
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
I certainly would not want my WH's brakes to go out - maybe
And, I don't advise killin' ... 'cept sometimes. I love this tune by Dixie Chicks !
;), love it! One of my fave's!
Me:BW Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10 3DstepChildren24&20 PlanA:01/03/10 PlanB:03/25/10 D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
Mymissy, first time I heard this. loved it. Yes I pray for my ex everyday and I think I hear the karma bus tooting.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
You know, right now, I'm at peace w/ how my marriage disintegrated. It wasn't my choice. I did everything I could to save it. However, years down the road, it's ok. Long years. Lots of them.
However, there have been days when I thought my xh was one of the reasons why we should have retroactive birth control.
<~~~ Jeff 
