I need help verifying that all contact has indeed stopped.

Flexispy can't be put on his iphone but I wonder if something else could be?
Also can I install a key logger that is truly stealth? We have a wireless keyboard and I was told you need one with wires.

My WH likes to email and text so his computer and iphone were his sources of communication with OW.

MBJ, you can download eblaster or spectorpro on his computer. It has nothing to do with a wireless keyboard. The keylogger costs about $100. eblaster will email the reports to another computer. With spectorpro you have to access the same computer to get the reports. You can check it out here: spectorpro.com

Thank you Melodylane.

My WH has Norton antivirus/antispyware on the computer. It seems like it would detect the eblaster (according to Norton's website). Do you know if there is anything I can do about that?

I used eblaster with a wireless situation. Email reports were sent to my email account. This went on for at least 10 weeks and included several weeks after WH was out of the house. It was THE most valuable tool for my clarity. I now have no doubt that I was married to a seriel cheater---one that i could never forgive.

I am pretty sure wh had Norton on his.....he never found it. He couldn't find it even after he knew it was there. I had to remove it for him. Oh, and he is a programmer. He writes code for a living. Eblaster rocks.

What you do is this:

After you install the eBlaster, reboot the computer and see if the Norton's picks up on it. If it does, you can click an option for Norton's to ignore the eBlaster.

eBlaster is awesome!

I assure you - Norton will not detect the EBlaster. I know this because we use Norton and I have an EBlaster on my H's PC.

Do your thing MBJG.

LC has the real deal here. Most folks don't check their Norton settings very often and the ignore setting is buried in among a bunch of other stuff if my memory serves.

eBlaster tries to stay ahead of the anti-spyware folks and vice versa. It is an ongoing war. The danger time is during an update to Norton. If you have access to his computer on a daily basis, that presents no problem. Just update when he isn't around. Ask eBlaster for their technical help. At the price they charge, they also include live help, I have heard.

Larry

If you are on Verizon, they have a new family locator plan for 9.95 a month available for selected phones.

Just a thought.

Larry

This eblaster sounds interesting to me. Can someone explain exactly how you do it? I'm pretty computer illiterate and not very familiar with downloading things. I would have to have his computer, right? He mainly uses a laptop that he has with him. Will it give you passwords, etc? I order it, they ship me something and I have to download on particular computer?

Do you know what the email addresses were that he used? My H is famous for creating new ones. I used spokeo.com to verify some of them myself. Also if you know her email address you can plunk it in here and see what social networks she is on.

It's pretty much idiot-proof. They'll give you detailed instructions on how to install it.
After installation, run the virus program to see if it detects it, and instruct it to ignore the program (it'll show you how.) You'll want to run the virus program occasionally to check for updates (it'll show you how, just click on the icon.) Instruct any updates to ignore the program.

Go to the website and purchase it - its about $100.

Then you can download and install it from their computer in about 5 minutes.

All the information is sent daily to whichever email account you'd like.

It tracks instant messaging, chats, every web site visited, keywords, every keystroke and application used.

I purchased it. The next time my WH was on the comp he realized it was running differently, ran a virus scan, and found eBlaster. Obviously I denied knowledge, but that was $100 wasted. Still have to call eBlaster to get them either to fix the problem or refund my money.

One of the things people seem to pass over is that one of the installation steps is to tweak the anti-virus software so that it ignores the keylogger. Why more people don't make this observation is unknown to me.

OMG - What anti virus software was he running Preg?

Because those of us who are not savvy don't realize...

I called the 800# during installation and was hand held thru that process.

I'll be calling again tomorrow evening to ask about the "danger time" for Norton which someone mentioned earlier in this thread.

Well I did install the spectrasoft keylogger (with phone support cause I was nervous and they were wonderful!)

I found that indeed there was still contact...
Instead of emailing the usual way they shared an email account so each would log in as if it was there own email account and compose a message and then no need to send it.
Somehow they thought this was safer.

And the other sneaky thing is that my WH has a website and so he gave OW the password info. so she and he could log onto the website and "update" an article and save it. It was published for web visitors to see but if you give the passwords then you can access it. On the history of the computer it just looks like he is on his own website editing info. But with the keylogger I saw what they were saying. This was there way to talk.

(plus a calling card that he bought to call her at work from a pay phone so he wouldn't get caught) He made reference to talking to her once a week on the website conversation...

I will update my story later but the point (for now)is that spyware did not detect the keylogger at all.