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Is exposure only for Plan A? I am now moving to Plan D. So is it wrong to do one more huge exposure to OM's friends and family? Because I feel like I will primarily be doing it out of spite to embarrass OM.
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BH(Me)=40
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DDAY: 8/31/09
Two boys: 8,7
Divorced 3/23/2011
Don't let your eyes refuse to see. Don't let your ears refuse to hear. Or you ain't never gonna shake this sense of sadness. --Ray Lamontagne
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Nothing wrong with spite.
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Is exposure only for Plan A? I am now moving to Plan D. So is it wrong to do one more huge exposure to OM's friend and family? Because I feel like I will primarily be doing it out of spite to embarrass OM. But he should be embarrassed, that is a good thing. He won't be embarrassed because you told, but because he did something embarrassing. Everyone should know about his affair. If more people would expose bad behavior, maybe people would be less inclined to do it. You would be doing the OM a favor and an act of public service.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Oh MelodyLane, how did I know you would be in favor of MORE exposure? Yes, I would be doing OM a favor... I love that.
BH(Me)=40
WXW=38
ILYBNILWY: 8/09
DDAY: 8/31/09
Two boys: 8,7
Divorced 3/23/2011
Don't let your eyes refuse to see. Don't let your ears refuse to hear. Or you ain't never gonna shake this sense of sadness. --Ray Lamontagne
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Oh MelodyLane, how did I know you would be in favor of MORE exposure? Yes, I would be doing OM a favor... I love that. Exposure is a good thing, not a bad thing. Exposure changes lives for the better. Embarrassment and humiliation are natural consequences of bad behavior. They are not bad things; they are therapeutic.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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