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I need help with Plan B.
Most of my story is on another thread,Not sure f this shd be connected to it but here goes.
My WH has been having an A for 10mths. PA in august and Sept.
Phone since them.
Confronted in August, he lied ofcourse and finally when confronted with fact of when and where he cried and said it was my fault ofcourse. So I have been plan Aing since October.
This has been all me only, he "is numb" and offers nothing.
I have been adressing everything I know to have been my lack of meeting EN's. I have exposed him to family, children, friends.
He still has done nothing. WH says is was stupid but offers no more. So Plan A has been a very onesided street.Says he needs time.
I Feel like I need to move to Plan B as I have just this week learned that while OW and WH have not seen each other they are in constant contact. I have not exposed OW and I am diligently trying to get atty to agree to my doing so. Please know that I do understand and agree that it needs to be done to stop the affair.
My question is in the meantime how do I start Plan B when WH won't leave. Atty has advised me that I have no legal grounds to make him leave and if I leave I have to pay for it and possible that it could hurt me if And when house is negotiated in a settlement.
If I am not to lovebust then how do a get him leave.All the things I think of are lovebusting. Like not washing clothes, fixing meals etc.
What are my options if none legal?
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I packed up my WHs things and just asked him to move.
You should combine your threads. It is easier to go back and re-read what advice and steps you have taken. Thanx
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I packed up my WHs things and just asked him to move.
You should combine your threads. It is easier to go back and re-read what advice and steps you have taken. Thanx I dont know if you have children but my WH wouldnt leave...so I told him either he leaves or me and DS will leave and live with my mom....He left and took a few things....I packed up the rest and left it on the front lawn for him with a plan B letter..and that was that.
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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Expose.
Do that immediately, and see what happens.
If it doesn't kill the A, it's time for a new plan.
Me: BW, 46
Him: WH, 48
EA/PA with co-worker 8-08 to 7-09
D-day 7-29
NC 8-17
OW and WH both fired from jobs
OW lost court case for restraining order- judge called her a "practiced deciever" who manufactured evidence!!
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You haven't exposed yet?
You're not ready for Plan B then.
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Expose,expose,expose! If you haven't exposed you can't go into Plan B.
BW-me 47yrs
WH-him 50yrs
married 24yrs, together 25 yrs,DD 25yrs, DD 22yrs(granddaughter born 3/14/2012).
D-Day#1 discovered cell phone calls 6/30/2009
D-Day#2 7/26/2009
Plan D 06/2012/WH served 8/17/12
WH left 7/25/2009/WH moved in with OW 7/29/2009
Trying to reconcile 12/30/2009/left 10/22/2010
2nd OW 8/2011? and living in Idaho.
"Dochas" Gaelic for hope which I have with me at all times because it is tattooed on my lower back.
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I agree. Expose, weather the storm, stay calm and confident, and then see what happens. You really have nothing to lose by exposing at this point. I know it's scary, but it is the best thing you can do IMO.
-SOL
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