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There! Dr. H said it. Plan C (Compromise) is NOT something he recommends and more than likely you'll end up divorced if you try it instead of his recommended Plans A & B.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Bummer had a meeting so I missed it - was it good (need I even ask?)
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I missed it, too, but listening to the prerecorded stream. I'm not sure if it's the same show or not.
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I am listening to the re-broadcast and they are asking that you email Joyce before the show with your question at jharley@marriagebuilders.com
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Tuning in - Got my little rear handed to me listening to the show 2 days ago, lets see what happens this time. 
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When Joyce introduces her husband, she needs to mention he's her husband. 
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Interesting Show today.
Caller in the second half dealing with his wife having an affair with her boss for over 1 year.
What I found interesting is the caller was counselling with SH who advised him to hold off on exposure until Plan B begins which will be soon. Dr. H stated several times that he may be a bit more hard line on this than his son, as he recommends a WIDE SPREAD Exposure ASAP. I can't even imagine the pain of the poor man watching his wife go to her AP every morning for A YEAR!!!! He called the non-exposure what it is: enabling.
He did a bit of a shout out to y'all too - he mentioned the numerous affairs on this forum that ended due to exposure.
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Hi Vibrissa! I listened to most of the show....(missed the 1st 8mins of it) but I was really surprised that the man caller said he had counseled with the son (Steve) and was advised not to expose! To wait until Plan B....it didn't make sense to me....this caller must be mixed up.
I mean he said his wife has been in the affair for 2yrs now....he found out when she was 1yr in and has plan A for 1yr now w/o doing exposure....surely Steve didn't tell him to wait a yr to expose....I think that just can't be right.
The advice Dr.H gave him on the show today was spot on...and what he should have done 1yr ago....I think the caller was relucant to do it and maybe he only recently called for a phone session to Steve and that's what is all mixed up with it.
Too bad he didn't do exposure right away 1yr ago....he could have killed that A....I feel so bad for his kids....nobody in that family even knows about the Wife's A....the H has kept it all a big secret.....and also in our state you can't move over 100 miles away from your spouse when you get a D....they have rights to see the kids also....so telling him to take them and move to another state isn't gonna work in court....this man really really blew it by waiting.
He is better off.....doing exposure to ALL NOW and then doing plan A....like he should have in the beginning and seeing if he can't end the A.
Sorry got carried away.
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gem- hiya!
I agree with you. It is possible that it got all mixed up b/c I can't imagine SH counselling to wait on exposure (albeit I've never counselled with him just going based on what people round here say).
It's possible he just recently called SH and since he's going into a plan B pretty soon he advised waiting.
Harley also said to tell the kids and even advised the father and kids move away, leaving the wife to her AP. He was pretty hard line about it: tell everyone, don't help her get her own place, if possible take a job in a new city and dark Plan B.
My heart aches for the poor man living that way for a year, and his poor kids feeling their world crumbling around them and not knowing why.
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Looks like they are doing a shout out to all of us Texans by playing "Yellow Rose of Texas." Thanks, Brian, on the radio program.  Joyce Harley didn't know that the Yellow Rose of Texas was a person...
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Joyce Harley didn't know that the Yellow Rose of Texas was a person... 
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Looks like they are doing a shout out to all of us Texans by playing "Yellow Rose of Texas." Thanks, Brian, on the radio program. Joyce Harley didn't know that the Yellow Rose of Texas was a person... I MISSED YELLOW ROSE OF TEXAS!!??? 
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gem- hiya!
I agree with you. It is possible that it got all mixed up b/c I can't imagine SH counselling to wait on exposure (albeit I've never counselled with him just going based on what people round here say).
It's possible he just recently called SH and since he's going into a plan B pretty soon he advised waiting.
Harley also said to tell the kids and even advised the father and kids move away, leaving the wife to her AP. He was pretty hard line about it: tell everyone, don't help her get her own place, if possible take a job in a new city and dark Plan B.
My heart aches for the poor man living that way for a year, and his poor kids feeling their world crumbling around them and not knowing why. Either that, or Dr H got off the radio and gave his son what-for!
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Am I crazy, or is today's program a program I've heard before?
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RERUN! 
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"I generally recommend that men stay in plan A as long as they possibly can." (verbatim quote from Dr. Harley)
"Even at the expense of their health, to some extent, because women respond better to plan A" (paraphrased)
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RERUN! I think it gave me the chance to hear the beginning of the show which I must have missed the first time. By the way, for anyone who hasn't realized, yet, you can listen to old shows 24/7. They aren't too different from the new shows. I'm sure MelodyLane has them memorized, but for the rest of us, there's not too much difference between catching an old show and a new one.
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 I cant listen to it. I have downloaded all the suggested plug in's and I still cant get it to work.  I'm missing outtttttttttttttttt. *sniffle*
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