Oh...... Mrs wondering! Why on earth would I make up my wifes situation ?
It has not changed since my first post !
What's your problem ?
Can we put your amature diagnosis aside for a sec, and get on with the job in hand ?

My meds ? Wanna know dr & dr wondering ?

Thought that would shut you up Dr & mrs !!!!

Conflict isn't going to save your marriage, bingo - especially with random people on the other side of a computer screen.

You need to be focused on building a good marriage, not scoring points in some imaginary game in teh intarwebs.

Arguing and pointing fingers will get you no where, self-introspection will.

No one cares that you shut up the W's (sad b/c they're a great couple).

Question: If you're so big on going to the 'BEST' for help in your life, the expert on overcoming alcoholism, etc. why haven't you yet called the Harley's for help strengthening your marriage?

I think the answer to that is obvious.

Because , I am not religeous !!?
I am not point scoring, I just feel it is wrong to diagnose from a distance . That's all .
I'm not about conflict . Far from it . I realise that does nothing but create more .
It is however difficult to sustain a thread here without bigots poking their nose in and marring real progress .
Sorry, but that's the truth .
Dr and mrs wondering . Let me ask you this . Why are you always on line peeping when if your " oh so perfect " marriage is just that, you don't just get on with it and go out and live your lives .
Fragility is obvious ......... Just as bi- polar is !!

While the Harleys are Christian, their literature is remarkably free from religious overtones. Because the program works no matter if you're religious or not. I am sure they have counseled MANY non-religious people into good marriages. How do you know that they will only counsel you from a religious stand point if you haven't even bothered to call?

Sounds like a cop-out to me.



And yet almost all your interactions here are augmentative, pointing fingers at others, placing blame anywhere but where it belongs.




You can ignore them, yet you CHOSE to engage with them. They are not hindering your progress, YOU ARE.

And the W's are here for the same reason many others in happy marriages are: to help those in need. I'm sure they don't need you to tell them how to spend their time.

Ok , got your point, but I am only returning the pointed finger .

And how is absolutely calling oneself a f&�@ng idiot and calling ones wife capable of being unfaithful , pointing a finger anywhere else ?

No you didn't get the point



The but negates anything you said before it. Haven't we been over this before?

Apart from the [censored] that raped my wife !!!!!!!?

What the [censored] are you doing here vibrissa ?
Anticipating ? Don't let paranoia eat your marriage up !!!!!!

Why would you be on the infidelity part of this site if you weren't consumed by the subject itself ?

I'm here because I want to build a better marriage, and I have.

I browse around on the infidelity side of this website b/c I like to read and have a slow day at work and the 101 forum is kinda slow today.

I'm talking to you b/c I want you to have a good marriage. My mother is in a 25 year affairage and though I despise it, I love my sisters dearly. I was helping you for the sake of your children, because in them I see my sisters.

I see it is a lost cause. You vehemently refuse to do anything to help yourself but blame those trying to help you.

Feel free to point the accusatory finger at me instead of looking into yourself to make your marriage better. If that makes you feel better go ahead, no sweat of my back, I have a WONDERFUL marriage.

I'm done helping you. I should have followed the examples of countless others, get down in the mud with swine and all you get is dirty.

Yay - Vibrissa's in the club!

Ok , ok . The affairage thing is being used again .
If you have the perfect marriage . Surely you just know that in your heart and house and don't have to spend time as a voyeur ?
That is utter bollocks .
Your marriage is as sick as those you are viewing !!!

So predictable!

PM, didn't you know it's easier to accuse others of being sick, bigoted or liars than it is to actually DO any work...

heck... it's how I get out of doing dishes at MY house - works like a charm....

And why the he'll would you need a web site to try to have a happy marriage ?
Surely that's as worrying as those here who have had affairs ?
You need more help than us !
The fact that you are applauded for your acheivments in advising on something that you hopefully know nothing about sums it up really , doesn't it ?

Huh. I told my H he was sick and bigoted and I still had to take my turn drying the pots! What am I doing wrong???