Yep, the 2-year mark is like a brick wall that almost nothing makes it through.

The 6-month mark is a hefty speed bump that knocks out the trannys on any vehicle that's lower to the ground. The few SUV's race on, pointed straight at the wall.

My SIL is nearing the 5 year mark on her A. They are still both "technically" married to their respective spouses but they are "engaged." They have 2 sons together. They both believe the other has "cheated" on the other. My BIL even talks to OM. OM asks for relationship advice from BIL. It is creeptacular.

Yuck yuck yuck!!!!!

Well, you know "FANTASY DIVORCE." I don't understand why my BIL does this. He has been putting up more boundaries. Not enough IMVHO.

Wow. That is truly some 'bizarro world' type stuff.

I can't even fathom participating in a convo like that......


TB

It's bizarro even hearing about talks like that. I have MANY examples of things I DON'T want to do, that's for sure.

My SIL just started a job at a coffee shop last night. POSOM said to my BIL, "I am worried about her working at a coffee shop." Ummmmm MAYBE because that is where she met YOU. BIL said, "Well, at least this time the coffee shop is down the street from you and not ME." My friends like hearing my stories about my family and friends. It is true that TRUTH is STRANGER than FICTION. And I am sure there are stranger stories yet.

I don't know if this is "stranger", but.....

My BIL's (my sis's H) father had many affairs on his mother. His last affair he ended up
leaving the mom and married his AP. AP was also married and divorced her H.

A few months after their wedding, Mom and OW's XH started dating and within a year, THEY got married.....

The affairage partners think they did a wonderful thing because OBVIOUSLY, the other two "belonged" together....

there are rumors CONSTANTLY going on about the OW hooking up with the XH......

Oh, and there were 5 kids total between the two families....... And they ALL have had their share of problems.....especially heavy drug usage......

It's just a sad tale....

Not2fun

That one is pretty strange and definitely right up there. WOW.

And the sad thing to me is: My WH actually told me that OW's husband would probably be perfect for me!

Seriously??? The stuff that comes out of the mouth of a wayward is beyond comprehension to me.

I do feel for the OWH. I can see myself talking to him, but the idea of ever talking to him about anything beyond what we would need to talk about to destroy the A is totally bizzare.

I think the ones that make it through the brick wall were often spectacularly unhealthy to begin with.

Very few originally decent people are content to be brainsucked aliens for the rest of their lives.

You know what the funniest part is?.....

Now, remember BOTH of these couple have been together over 15 yrs., BUT to this day BIL's dads family STILL love and support his mother and can't STAND his wife, OW. They also like OWs XH, moms current H..........

Actually, from what I understand, all the families involved, including the extended families, pretty much dislike FIL and OW, because they ALL know it was their affair that destroyed so many families and children........

Anywho, I'm so glad to hear how well you have been doing. You are handling Plan B remarkably well. I do think though, it's because of your timeline. By the time you found MB, you had been dealing with the A for quite some time. Besides the fact that MB just makes sense, Plan B was a RADICAL change from how the around you deal with A's, which you know how that works......

Usually, the ones who don't like Plan B, are the ones who found MB shortly after Dday. Me, I whined ENDLESSLY to go into Plan B......Mimi wouldn't let me......not until my Plan A had been perfected.....and like vie already said, mine was only 6 days, and it was more to get H to COMMIT to Recovery rather than to end the affair......

Kudos to you Scottie........you done well.......and so have your boys......

Not2fun

Today DS9 had track and field. He came in 3rd in running long jump. 1st in 100m and 2nd in 200m. I am sooooooo PROUD. This means he will be going to city meet for 100m and 200m.

I told him that next year he will be entering all of the events because he thinks he can't do some of them. I told him if he practices than he can get better. If he does it next year and still doesn't want to do the other events then he doesn't have to.

It was a GREAT day out. Hot but there was a breeze. It was fun to cheer on my kiddo.

WOOHOO!!!

Woo hoo for DS9!!!

Cool news on the sports stuff scotty .Grats and high 5s

Oh wayturds suck azz.

DS9 was talking to WH. He told WH about the accomplishments. Then he said, "But Daddy, you don't sound excited at all."

DS9 is upset now. He is going to email WH to tell him that he is upset.

Oh well, I am PROUD and we are telling all of our family and friends too. DS9 will still get his KUDOS.

On another note, WH has stopped asking if DS7 wants to talk to him. I guess he has given up hope.

I see this as a breakdown in Whs ability to be a good Dad because he must realize at some level he is not being a good man. What could be happening is that in the wishy washy wayward thinking world OW is pegging you as to blame.

I am hoping that WH will finally see thru his own Bullchit as he sees what this type of crap is hurting his sons.

Men who care for thier children care for thier children. They don't ask an underdeveloped mind to emotionally deal or agree with selfish acts. Has your WH ever sat them down and told them why he left? Does he feel that they deserve to know? He can't give the flimsy reason that you didn't get along and something like "I just don't love Mommy anymore" will confuse them and scare the crap out of them. When will he stop loving them they will ask themselves.

Thank God for people like you Scotty who live in the real world and protect those innocent boys. You are even protecting your WH at your own expense.

There is, and never will be a good reason based on what a grown up should be acting like for him to do what he has done.

Now if he could only swallow his foolish pride and admit he needs you. Its really the only place he belongs. May God slap him back to reality.


Till then keep on being you Scotty, You rock.. "GURLFREN"

Amen SSO!

You are so right, SSO. Well said.

Scotty, that is great news about your athelete. You must be so proud!

Scotty, I have a copy of a poem that I'm going to print and frame for my son and his little boy for Father's Day. I hope to be able to get a picture of my son and grandson walking hand-in-hand. The picture will be faded out so that the printing will show up better.

You might think of doing something similar for your boys to give their dad for Father's Day.

Here's the poem:

Walk a Little Plainer, Daddy

"Walk a little plainter, Daddy,"
said a little boy so frail,
"I'm following in your footsteps
And I don't want to fail.
Sometimes your steps are very plain
Sometimes they are hard to see,
So, walk a littel plainer, Daddy,
For you are leading me.

I know that once you walked this way
Many years ago
And what you did along the way,
I'd really like to know,
For sometimes when I am tempted,
I don't know what to do,
So walk a little plainer, Daddy,
For I must follow you.

Some day when I'm grown up,
You are like I want to be.
Then I will have a little boy
Who will want to follow me.
And I would want to lead him right
And help him to be true.
So walk a little plainer, Daddy,
For we must follow you."

--Author unknown