this such a long storie i'd rather not get into it the bottom line is i love my W but she has had A for 3 yrs tells she's leaving me for this dough bag .i don't know if i can go on with out her,.what do i besides a bottle of jamesson with a 357 magnum and short walk in the woods for me.

Sweetwater are you still there?

Four posts here since december 'o9 is not going to get you help.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to keep your WW. Or with wanting a D.

What is wrong is that you won't share your story and follow the advice of the veterans here. Following MB strategy will give you your best odds at saving your marriage.

How did the WW meet the OM?

This is sweetwaters first post...I havent read it yet just copied it.....I am gonna read it now......

ive been watching on here for advice,til now . ( WELL THIS IS A VERY ABBV VERSION ,SO BARE WITH ME) wife had an A 2 yrs ago with coworker i know him and he's been to my house for supper with my family( he got fired before D-day) after dday i got the same old line ( he's my soulmate we think alike yada,yada,yada)well i was pretty much devastated the i got kids involved she was pe-ed about that too g12,g16,b19. big drama it pretty much tore my heart out, at that time i begged her to try again so we went to counciling couple times she said it was a waste of time,so i talked her into a vacation together and after that for a 6 months things seem to be better good. at the time her father was fighting lukema but getting sicker in november of 2008 he died.in that spring i dont recall how i found out about the A.never really ended she told the kids this time and that she was leaving to be with om she packed some of her stuff left the next morning,and then for the next 2 days she stop by to see the kids make supper.well the third night i was out in the yard and i see her car pull into the garage her and OM big fight about she can't stand to be away from kids so she comes home says this is where she belongs so things are good for awhile again ( in the mean time OM man stocking her sending threating messages following her to work - she worked nights I drove her to work switched cars with her sister i even chased him down once she didn't want to get the police involed with any of it it seemed she wanted to try and work on the M we even took a cruise last winter well the other day i looked on her phone and there was a couple i love you messages on there from him to her and her to him i knew something was up before hand she was getting more distant and a few months ago she told me ,when we where having a down spot in the M.that she told me she was here to just rise the kids .well tonight i get a call from OMs friend telling me the A'S going on yet so i confront her about it she admit it but thats it's not an A that just been chatting with him.ya right,now where to go from here? i'm kinda against the wall on other fronts too I'm on the cusp losing my job to down sizing do to recession and she carries the benefits.I had to take a demotion and cut in pay which are going to make things tough around here also next stop will be lay off M-24 3kids

Okay, just stick to the other thread, okay? I bumped it up for you...that way everything is on one thread.