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Hope WORKS with her WH. I just get WORKED OVER by mine.
Her's drinks. Mine gambles. They both ignore their kids. Both have money problems. Her's had skin cancer. Mine got fired. Both look older and fatter since D-day. Her's left without looking back. Mine had multiple false recoveries. She exposed late. I exposed early and often and to anyone who would listen.
Bottomline is that both of our WHs are with manipulative women who care little for the rule to stay away from another woman's man. These OW have no problem breaking up families, taking our money and flaunting their "prize."
And our WHs are addicted to the alcohol/gambling and sex. They have no more parenting responsibilities because they know that WE, their left behind wives, will take care of our children. They TRUST that we will be OK... that we will move on... that we will never bring unsavory men around our children... that we will continue to be faithful, honest, loving, GOOD women.
They know that we will not lie, cheat, torture, abuse, kill -- them or our children. And they hope that one day -- they will be "off the hook" morally and financially because we find a great man to replace them.
Then they'll say "See -- it all worked out for the better."
And both Hope's WH and mine will regret their choices -- one day. They will NOT celebrate a milestone anniversary with these women. They will not walk their daughter's down the aisle. They will suffer great hardships for thinking with the wrong head. They will end up in hell...
unless they find God again.
And Hope and I will be to BLAME for everything wrong in their lives forever, and ever, and ever!
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They know that we will not lie, cheat, torture, abuse, kill -- them or our children. And they hope that one day -- they will be "off the hook" morally and financially because we find a great man to replace them. I agreed with most of your post except this line. Definitely will not hurt our darling kids...but them....
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
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And they hope that one day -- they will be "off the hook" morally and financially because we find a great man to replace them.
Then they'll say "See -- it all worked out for the better." Oh doesn't that just GRIND your butt when you hear people say rot like that? These OW have no problem breaking up families, taking our money and flaunting their "prize." Her's drinks. Mine gambles. They both ignore their kids. Both have money problems. Her's had skin cancer. Mine got fired. Both look older and fatter since D-day............ both of our WHs are with manipulative women ........... our WHs are addicted to the alcohol/gambling and sex. ........ both Hope's WH and mine will regret their choices -- one day. They will NOT celebrate a milestone anniversary with these women. They will not walk their daughter's down the aisle. They will suffer great hardships for thinking with the wrong head. They will end up in hell... some prize
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You are so right, Hope.
I cannot for certain say that if a particular opportunity should somehow presented itself -- and WH just so happened to be standing a little too close to OW -- and my SUV had a teeny, tiny ever so slight difficulty with its brakes -- that I wouldn't try tooooo hard to avoid the both of them.
Just saying... not that I would ever, ever do them physical harm....lol!
Hope -- feel free to add, edit, delete from the master list,
Ahhh.... our boys... can't live with them, can't live with them!
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You two wonderful women have just missed the mark. IFFFF you spent any time at all over on the OW website, you would just know that THEY THINK that THEY ARE THE PRIZE. They seriously think that, but then again, they all swim in a pool of delusion. GF
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I cannot for certain say that if a particular opportunity should somehow presented itself -- and WH just so happened to be standing a little too close to OW -- and my SUV had a teeny, tiny ever so slight difficulty with its brakes -- that I wouldn't try tooooo hard to avoid the both of them. Is it a Toyota?
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I cannot for certain say that if a particular opportunity should somehow presented itself -- and WH just so happened to be standing a little too close to OW -- and my SUV had a teeny, tiny ever so slight difficulty with its brakes -- that I wouldn't try tooooo hard to avoid the both of them. Is it a Toyota? .....Wait a minute, thats not funny. I drive a Toyota.
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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I cannot for certain say that if a particular opportunity should somehow presented itself -- and WH just so happened to be standing a little too close to OW -- and my SUV had a teeny, tiny ever so slight difficulty with its brakes -- that I wouldn't try tooooo hard to avoid the both of them. Is it a Toyota? .....Wait a minute, thats not funny. I drive a Toyota. I just called the Toyota dealership asking about the model called the Karma bus
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
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I NEED a Toyota. Maybe I can borrow one that hasn't been serviced under the recall yet. FIL and MIL have one. Now that would be Karma!!
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My spying has paid off again.
WH has been offered a comparable job. I found an "offer of employment" in his email account. The offer in contingent on him passing a background check. Hummm... wonder if his huge debt ratio will come back to bite him?
I have to hold this info. close to the vest. We're going to court in two weeks and he's seeking a reduction in support due to him having no job. He's sooooo bad that I wouldn't put it past him to wait until support is reduced before accepting the position.
Also learned that our health benefits ended Friday. I found that the subsidized COBRA legislation had been extended so COBRA being too expensive won't fly in court. Especially since he's spent LOTS of money gambling since he lost his job. (Subsidized health care: $525/mo.; April on-line gambling:$1,700 PLUS a trip to Vegas with Bimbo -- hotel, casino, restaurants total-- don't know!).
I keep thinking of the Art of War. My ammo is overflowing. I keep collecting and storing damaging information. I think it's time to start using my weapons. I pray that my attorney is SMART about coming up with a plan of attack.
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Make sure you save the email about the job offer.
Make sure to use that in court somehow, perhaps your attorney can word it correctly.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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The judge sure won't like hearing about his gambling and then his whining about support...you know, for his wife and KIDS...those things he forgot about...
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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He accepted the job. I found an official email from the new bank with congrats and start date. No mention of final compensation package.
But he hasn't notified me. So I go to court next week with him thinking I don't know he has a job. Yes, I'll have my back up ready, but this infuriates me to no end. He's playing games with me. He's so used to being shading and hiding the facts that he can't even text me that he found a job.
And the health insurance issue? He still hasn't signed us up for COBRA so we are uncovered at the moment. My attorney assured me that when he gets a job -- that he will HAVE to incude the kids and I on the policy.
His start date is a month away. So instead of getting us COBRA coverage for a month, he's "gambling" that he can get away with not paying. His little pea brain is probably thinking that he will only need to worry about himself on the new job's insurance plan -- FAT CHANCE.
This man is devious!!!
I wanted so badly for him to struggle finding a job. It's out of my hands. I just pray that he HATES this new job -- or he has a gorgeous secretary that will make jealous BIMBO even more jealous -- or he is surrounded by godly people who help him find his way back to humanity.
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he got a job HH found out the judge will give some of it to his FAMILY! sux to be WH and bimbo
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Yeah, I hope it sux being them.
Good news is that we found out yesterday that DD will be receivng another scholarship. DD completed the application on her own and was selected after an panel interview with members of the organization. A gentleman phoned me last night making sure we would be at the Senior Awards Night when they present her with her scholarship.
Ying and Yang. Same day as court.
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Yeah, I hope it sux being them.
Good news is that we found out yesterday that DD will be receivng another scholarship. DD completed the application on her own and was selected after an panel interview with members of the organization. A gentleman phoned me last night making sure we would be at the Senior Awards Night when they present her with her scholarship.
Ying and Yang. Same day as court. Awesome news! I know that's a relief for you!
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* “In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Oh yes HH. You have ammo alright, and you do need to start using it. Court won't be fun for him. He'll figure out that you have been spying and he will plug up all the leaks. Bummer. It's OK though because if you caught enough to drown him.
BS - me 56 XWH - 57
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6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented WH wants nothing to do with me
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FYI --
He would not be entitled to COBRA or the subsidy if he was terminated for misconduct....
It is possible that he isn't being stubborn, but is UNABLE to provide it due to the cause of his firing...
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Intially I thought the same thing, Lexxxy, since I saw that COBRA didn't have to be offered if termination was for gross misconduct. D!ck told both our attorneys in court two weeks ago that he couldn't afford COBRA and that we had 60 days of coverage so the topic could be discussed this week in court at our hearing. Turns out he LIED because coverage was for only 30 days and has since lapse. He may have LIED about the reason he was fired, too. And he may be LYING about the cost of COBRA. Should be interesting to watch his nose grow in court. And I PRAY it's a classic Perry Mason scene..... So... Mr. HH .. have you sought employment? Any leads? So you have no reserve funds to pay for your children's continued health insurance? Well, D!CK -- Do you recognize this email with a job offer? Do you recognize this other email welcoming you to your new job to start on June 1? And do you recognize the bank statement showing that since you were fired you, in fact, spent $2250 on-line gambling? And you have been to Vegas TWO TIMES since being fired and are planning another trip this weekend? MR. HH -- KEEP YOUR PANTS ON. And you might want to remind Bimbo to do the same. Pay the lady.
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And....is your upcoming trip to Vegas business or MONKEY business?
BS - me 56 XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented WH wants nothing to do with me
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