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#23747 10/24/99 09:28 PM
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I need some advise before I go crazy! This is the story: My H was involved with OW for about one month (emails, phone calls, meetings) before I discovered it. I never let on that I knew, since I needed PROOF. The OW H discovered the affair also and blew the whistle on them before it got sexual. My H was remorseful and we both agreed to work on our marriage. He made a promise to me that he would not contact her again. Everything was going fine for several weeks, until I had a "feeling" they were communicating again. (They do alot of AOL Instant Mail, and I cant track that). When I confronted him (without any proof) he is the KING of Deny and Lie!<BR>What I think they are doing now is communicating, but VERY carefully. I think they are probably emailing from work and talking on the phone during work hours. Everywhere I have checked and searched comes up clean. But still I have a persistent uneasy feeling about it. I know in my heart it is still going on and need to know a way to find out the truth. It was easier knowing the truth, then not knowing and constanting wondering. Any advise please?<BR>

#23748 10/24/99 09:39 PM
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If it's in your gut, it means something. That's the one thing we've all learned the hard way here.<P>Sorry.<P>You think he's instant messaging at work only? Do you have a computer at home? If at home, look on the history, usually under Tools. Go into explorer and see if you even have any IM programs on your machine??<P>And then, there's always a PI. Yuk though unless you really want to blast this out into the open.<P>I'm sure you'll get plenty of good advice here.<P>I haven't met you before, so I say "welcome" and sorry you have to come here at all. It can be a very painful place.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>


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