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I'm so sorry this has happened to you again. You're a wonderful person, and your wisdom shines through in your posts.
Even though you will feel doubt, remember feelings are just feelings. You are wonderful, special, funny, smart, and altogether deserving of every good thing in life.
We are all here for you.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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I just love you guys.  Thank you for the kind words. Doing the poly research and making questions but the MB weekend won't be happening after all. I was mistaken on the dates and just now realized it.  No promises to WH. These are things to give me peace of mind for my own sanity.
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2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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b_r,I suggest you two do WHATEVER it takes to make it to the MBW. The follow-up help itself is worth it's weight in gold.
Seriously...do WHATEVER IT TAKES to get there. It was not convenient for us in the LEAST (we had about 2 days to make arrangements for 4 kids, cancel other plans, line-up babysitting, etc.) but I cannot tell you how worth it it was.
Just go.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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We would still do the online course and phone counseling MF. WH will arrange that. Being there for Friday night is the problem. The logistics just won't work. The kids aren't the issue.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Ok...don't know much about the online course since we went to the weekend but it sounds like the next best plan...I am glad you will be doing this. Please feel free to email me if you need to...I have been where you are right now. 
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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Thanks MF. I know you know and it sucks.
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2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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It does suck...and not to freak you out but this time especially, it's probably going to get worse before it gets better for you. Hang in there...the good thing is that this time you have the tools you know are needed to get through this and that will be helpful.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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Exposure to OWH...check.
Next...
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exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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 Good for you, doing exposure!
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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How are you holidng up BR? I've been thinking about your sitch and hope you are doing ok. I'm sure there are many here in the MB halls thinking about you and praying for the best outcome for you.
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How are you holidng up BR? I've been thinking about your sitch and hope you are doing ok. I'm sure there are many here in the MB halls thinking about you and praying for the best outcome for you. Yes, B/R, how you doing? LG
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I'm doing okay. No big mood swings...kind of flat....not sure if that is good or bad.
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2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I'm doing okay. No big mood swings...kind of flat....not sure if that is good or bad. IMO, it's neither...you may be on your way to a state of withdrawal which is serving to "protect" you from more hurt. You are right where you should be, it sounds like to me. 
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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I'm doing okay. No big mood swings...kind of flat....not sure if that is good or bad. Well...I know that you don't need help with the concepts or plans, etc. More then anything BR I just wanted you to know that alot of us are thinking about you. You are a classy lady that has given alot of herself to this community. We are here to give back to you in any way that you need us.
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I'm doing okay. No big mood swings...kind of flat....not sure if that is good or bad. Well...I know that you don't need help with the concepts or plans, etc. More then anything BR I just wanted you to know that alot of us are thinking about you. You are a classy lady that has given alot of herself to this community. We are here to give back to you in any way that you need us. ![[Linked Image from freesmileys.org]](http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-signs011.gif)
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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BR- Just want to wish you the best today.
-SOL
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