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I've bounced around in this pool of emotions for a long time. Does jealousy fit in there anywhere? I would put it with "Anger/Depression/Resentment"- it is an element of all 3 of these, but it really should be a step all on it's own. At least if you admit it, (that you are jealous) you can handle it. This is a big one for me too, and I had to deal with an EA (not a physical relationship. I know EA's are just as terrible as PA's. But the jealousy fator I think, goes way up in a physical A. JMHO
Last edited by barbiecat; 05/18/10 10:16 AM.
Me; W 46
Him; H 46
2 girls
DD19
DD16
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.
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I think jealousy is part of denial/anger. Why should you be jealous unless you think your spouse is CURRENTLY worthy of all the love you have for them?
I felt a LOT of jealousy when I was in the denial phase. Now - I think, she's welcome to him, as he is. I got the best part of him when he was a good man and good husband and good father. Now, she is only getting the lying, cheating part of him, even though he seems pretty attractive to her.
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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