I just found out my wife had an affair with 2 different men she worked with. The affairs have been over for 15 years. They lasted 3-5 years. They ended when she was fired for another reason. I am having trouble forgiving since it did not end in my opinion it was just stopped. Part of me wants to forgive but part just wants to leave and never speak to her again. The part that hurts the most is what she did with one of these men daily. She pursued them and then allowed them to just use her for their pleasure. She would either go with them or meet them and perform oral on them then go back to work. This was something she had never done before we got together. It was our special thing and she gave it away freely. I questioned her at the time and of course she denied. I even thought of following her but never did and now I regret it. If I had found out then it would have been an easy choice the big D. How do you get over something like this. She is saying she loves me and does not want anyone else but I don't know if I can believe her or not.

The pain for you is new and fresh and I know that to you it feels like you've been living a lie all these years. How did you find out?

What is her attitude towards the marriage?

Do you have kids?

bhm,

You've given these details on another thread. It is best for you to stick to that thread, and then you won't be asked the basic details repeatedly. Don't start a new thread with each new question.