Here is a template letter I would send to his facebook friends [alter to suit your situation]:

Dear friend of Skankyhola,

It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of her friends should be aware that Skanky is having an affair with my husband, Joe. We have been married for 5 years. They have been having this affair since October according to the evidence.
I would be happy to provide the evidence to anyone who asks.

I would ask that you use your influence with Skanky to persuade her to leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.
Thank you, BW

No GPS.

Oh, I know they have hooked up and I reminded her in MC that she lied to me and her children so that she could meet OM.

I'm hesitant to face OM because WW already mentioned restraining order because of the emails I sent to OM's family and friends.

That's what I thought...still cause as much trouble as possible for the affair. Also remain as pleasant and lovable as possible to WW.

I actually did speak to OM on the phone and he gave me some blah blah about how he would "back off" and end things so that WW and I could work on our marriage...

So, talk to him about ziplock bags anyway and let him scurry like a scared mouse to a judge. I would take it as a compliment if he was so frightened he tinkles in his shorts worrying about me.

He is inserting his head (pun intended) in your marriage. Cut it off.

Honestly, it's beyond the point of ridiculous and I think the only 2 x 4 left is a dark Plan B or serving D papers but she has no where to go and I would have to be the one to leave...how to explain that one to the kids.

Oh, and I've gotten "You have the opportunity to gain my love or not" from WW.

See, when I play by her rules it's all good and "i"m so loving". As soon as I mention the affair and ending contact with OM, I'm "negative and irrational...your emotions change from day to day...I never know how you are going to be when you get home from work"

JL, he can't get a restraning order on you for sending emails telling the truth. That is ludicrous. That was a ruse to get you to stop. I would do this:

Call his wife and tell her about all the recent contacts.

Sign up on facebook and ID his parents and close family members and any MARRIED COUPLES. Send them a letter telling them about the affair and asking that his parents call you.

Get a pocket recorder and a good friend and go have a friendly chat with the OM this evening at his house.

Cause trouble for this man EVERY DAY that he messes with your wife. He thinks he can scare you away by making idle threats, YOU NEED TO DISABUSE HIM OF THAT NOTION.

Oh no, you don't have to leave. She is a big girl and can find a place to live on her own. You do not leave, SHE LEAVES. She is not a child. Big gurls find their own places to live all the time. We don't need our poppa daddy's help after we are grown up. Give her $50 and drive her to a local flop house. She can rent a room.

Do I also pressure WW to end all contact as well?

Oh yes! Tell her that your marriage will end in divorce SOON if she doesn't end her adultery.

But, jlowes, I assure you the OM will dump your wife if you turn up the heat here. He is unemployed and dependent on his wife. He cannot afford to lose his meal ticket over some cheap peice of fun.

If you expose to his facebook friends, i bet you hear back from other women he is having affairs with. And perhaps their husbands. That would be ruinous to your wifes affair.

OK...thanks ML!

jlowesd,

IF you want to save your family, YOU need to step up, be a man, and drive this POSOM out of the lives of your family. Stand up. Don't be afraid. We've said this before and we'll say it again. MAKE OM'S LIFE HELL AS LONG AS HE CONTACTS YOUR WW!

Will he get a restraining order? Did you threaten him with violence? Then, no, and even if he did, BFD. That would only make it HARDER for him to contact your WW. Your need to drive this POS out of your lives until he's gone. Don't ask your WW to cut contact. Make it hard for her to continue contact. Block this guy's phone number and email. Put GPS on her car. Delete all his contact info. Block him on facebook. Do EVERYTHING you can to disrupt their relationship, and eventually they'll get the point and stop contacting each other. Your WW is an addict. She' CAN'T stop herself. This is a WAR of attrition. You need to IMPOSE your will on the situation. Take matters into your own hands. Quit being a pansy and end this thing for good before your love bank runs out. That's OM's plan, to keep chipping away until you give up. DON'T LET HIM WIN!

Edit: What state do you live in again?

Don't want to give my state on this forum in case WW should somehow stumble on here.

But I hear the message Lima Charlie (Loud and clear)

Do you live in one of the following states: Hawaii, Illinois, North Carolina, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, or Utah?

Also, I wanna hear that OM gets a restraining order on you because that means you are actually doing something. He should have to as much as you should be riding his @ss for any further contact w/ your WW.

No...I don't live in one of those states

Do you know what the Bluebonnet represents?

Hahahahaha! That's exactly what my FWH told OWH - same sitch. OWH called him, thinking he would speak 'man-to-man' with my WH. Thinking he could make my WH 'see the error of his ways'. That's hilarious. Don't do that anymore, jl. It gains you nothing other than to drive them underground. You're not talking to a man whose mental capacities are fully functioning. You are talking to an infatuated, addicted alien who is boinking your W. Ergo, common sense and level-headed conversations with him will amount to squat. Have you exposed this A far and wide yet?

Restraining orders are issued when a person fears for their safety. Perhaps you are referring to a harrassment lawsuit? You'd have to do far more than send some emails out to family and friends, stating facts.

I agree!! Step it up a notch and drive to the SOB's house and have a face to face with him. Bring a BIG FRIEND as your witness. Let him tell you he will back off to your FACE.

Just got off the phone with WW and she is hopping mad that I told her father whom she doesn't have a great relationship with.

Boo freaking hoo. If you don't want jlwesd to expose further, maybe you should cut off all contact with POSOM.

She won't have to deal with this anymore if she cuts off all contact.