H has done typical WS things like changing the password on his computer and phone locked. I'd say he's been pretty thorough on making sure I can't snoop on him.

If they are still in contact, no matter what it is, even just to say hi. Then EXPOSE, move back in first so he knows you are not leaving this marriage, let him know your intentions tell him with your A face that you love him and you will do everything in your power to save this marriage. I would probably do it when he comes back home though just in case he decides to stay a little bit longer where ever he is at. Unless you think its best to do it now.

I have the courage now to do it. It's all written out I just have to hit the button and it will be out there in cyberworld. I could wait though. Does it make a difference if he's with the OW when he sees it? Would it be best if he was home so I could explain my actions?

That's a hard question, because if I knew my husband was with another woman right now I would expose it A.S.A.P

So its all about you now is to either wait till he comes home or just SEND it

Holy Crap! I did it! He is going to be pissed I'm sure!

Oh ya he will trust me! Ok now that it is sent you need to protect yourself and your marriage.

pack up now and go home! Be prepared he might call or text you, if he does tell him that you want to work on your marriage, that you are not giving up.

Doing that right now. Thank you for your help.

This is such a rush, but don't get too antsy. These things work out in thier own time. He will be mad, but now is the time to show that your marriage is the safe good choice in all this craziness.

You said that you have been in Plan A, now it may even be harder for you when witdrawls are being made from your love bank, and it also makes preventing a Love Bust really hard. If you feel a Love Bust comming on you need to take a time out. Also ignore what he says, because they are lies. He is going to Love Bust your chops, but they are all lies. You have been together since high school. You have a lot more going for you than some floosy.

Identify what will help you the most to do an effective Plan A. Everyones plan may be a little different but the idea is the same. Read the post link SugarCane gave you.

Sapph and I are really concerned for you and hope you the best.

Hope everything turns out...well not as bad as it might be, cause it will trust me. I agree with my husband wheels, he was right where you were only 3 months ago!

Keep us updated or if have new questions, and concerns, this is a great place to vent! If you feel a LB coming on go to time out and post something here so you can let it out.

OMG H just called. He was PISSED! H said "How dare you post that to MY facebook" "I've haven't been that mean to you yet!" (sounds like a threat that things are going to get ugly) Then he hung up. Couldn't get a word in before he did. I sent him a text that said "I love you and I am willing to fight to save our marriage"

I am scared of what he'll be like when he comes home.

H deleted it from his FB profile, should I post it on mine?

YES post it on YOURS!!!

He will be angry and upset! I said a lot of threatening things to wheels when he exposed me on FB...I wonder if he wants to share some of them since I can only remember that one line.

"I might have ruined the marriage, but you ended it."

You can bet he will be furiously angry. WS are always outraged when exposed, and your WH in particular is used to being able to bully you and control you.

Can you have a friend or two come over so you don't have to be alone? And either way, keep a cell phone in your hand so you can call 9-1-1 if he gets nasty and threatening. Don't hesitate to do that. It will send the clear message that he cannot control and bully and disrespect you any more.

If he's that angry, HE can leave. I am sure he will do everything he can to frighten you into backing down, because he likes having you as doormat. Bullies always get very angry when their target refuses to be controlled any longer.

Keep that cell phone in your hand, and call some friends/relatives to stay with you for a while.

OH!! Change your password to your FB just in case he goes onto yours!

I agree with Mulan, if you are scared what he might do to you when he comes home, then have friends and family be there when he gets home. Great advise Mulan!

Do WS ever forgive for exposing like that? I hope so. Because I feel like I've just sabotaged anything we may have had left.

Oh trust me, wheels felt horrible after exposing the A, he really did believe he made things worse, and he did! But...you gotta remember when things can't get any worse it gets better. Do you know the OW name? Is she on FB? I would get all of her friends from her profile and send them all messages saying she has been cheating with your husband..and so on.

and you are not sabotaging anything, what you are doing right now is trying to save your marriage!

Yes, they do, and I'm sure some of them will be on here to reassure you of that. You did the right thing! My FWH was eventually thankful that he was exposed.