<BR>Hi Everyone -<P>I thought that this was good for those of us (or our significant others) who understand cars but don't quite grasp the workings of a relationship. Hope this sheds some light on it......<P>A WORKING RELATIONSHIP IS LIKE A WORKING ENGINE......<P>A relationship is like a finely tuned car engine. The way it works better is by what you put into it!!<P>The better gas you put in, the better mileage you achieve. An engine takes careful maintenance with oils and filters and sparkplugs. When there is a breakdown in one part of the engine it affects the whole performance.<P>The Oil represents the Communication shared between the couple; there must be constant communication that entails all aspects of their lives. Couples must understand one another and enjoy their time together for them to grow. If the oil is prevented from areas in the engine, that part will overheat and breakdown. When there is a breakdown in communication, misunderstandings occur and we become uncertain and frustrated with our partner and finally explode into irrational behaviors.<P>This is where the filters, which clean out the grime, crude and foreign materials from going into the running system, come in. The Filters represent Forgiveness. No matter how perfect your relationship may be, there will always be misunderstanding and frustration. If we carry our grudges we will end up embittered and depressed. To forgive is to forget and get on with our life.<P>The Spark Plugs, which provide the fire and power which gets the engine started, represents the couple's Passion. In order for a relationship to grow and develop there must be a passion and energy for one another. This spark is the sexuality, romance and attraction.<P>Something must continually power the engine - that is the Gasoline, which represents the Committed Effort couples must put into a relationship. As an engine will not run without gas - a relationship will not grow without attention and work. Both partners in the relationship must take responsibility for putting the gas back into their relationship. It the engine is kept in fine condition, there should be no problems when the gas tank is full!!!!<P>Hope this helps with understanding how a relationship must be maintained!!!!<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba <P>

Sheba,<P>Could you be cuter? I think not <P>Have a great week!<P>Now where did I put that transmission fluid??<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

I like the way you put things twin.<BR>Ever since last year we've been making sure that our engine is tuned perfetly, it's going great. Now we seem to always have extra spark plugs ever since December ! Do you think it matters? It wouldn't be harming the engine would it? <P>TAke care twin<BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Hi NB -<P>I think that the tranny fluid is SLEEP!!<P>If couples don't get enough rest - their <BR>gears start grinding and they are out of <BR>whack!!!!<P>Hi Twin -<P>One should ALWAYS have extra spark plugs on hand....it can only enhance the performance with such "rigid" (tee-hee) maintainance in that area!!!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba

LOL twin! <P>Have a great week.<P>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Geez, Sheba - you're thinking again!!! Aren't we ALL supposed to be asleep right now?????<P>I like that though.<P>Lori<P><p>[This message has been edited by lostva (edited October 25, 1999).]

Hey Sheba,<P>I think some of us [me] might have had a diesel engine in the relationship that runs on compression with no spark. That's what the W says about the last few years of marriage.<P>Time to get a gas job with spark.<P>Sorry to be a smart@$$. Running low on silver bullets. Seriously really cute analogy.<P>Wishing us all the Best,<P>Medic<P>

So that’s why my car burns so much oil!!!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>

and i suppose that synthetic oil might be modern communication and email!! hahahaha i really laughed at your analogy! what about coolant??

Good analogy. I may use this on H. Do you think he'll ask what the dipstick is for?