you want to lose gradually. Fast weight loss leads to muscle loss which is a metabolically active tissue, meaning it burns calories for you.
One pound a week is the limit, you will be damaging yourself if you lose more than that.
Excercise is the key.
What is it that you are doing now. Do you walk to your mailbox, or do you walk at all?
Are you physically active
blessing

Hope Eternal - am still reading up on your thread, but I just wanted to let you know that you are getting wonderful advice. No matter how bad things may or may not have been in your marriage, you did NOTHING to deserve to be cheated on. NOTHING - remember this no matter what: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

Aetna is right - try to focus on the positive. Some days, that will be really hard to do, but it will get easier every day. The darker you stay in Plan B, the better you will feel. Trust me - I thought I was doing well, but even little teenie, tiny breaks in Plan B affect you. I can't believe some of the dumb stuff that really upset me. I am pretty dark, but even I get darker every day. It will help you to grow as a person and love yourself more.

I will keep reading and chime in when I can. You are going to be fine. Just don't give up on yourself!

HopeE, you can do this. They don't call it a roller coaster ride for nothing, eh? I know ALL of us BS want our money back for that ride. Funny thing is, I look at like a positive too. It helped me become the person I want to be. I am proud to be the person I am now. I KNOW that I could have a happy and fulfilled marriage. I AM a GREAT person. Seeing as I see a lot of me in you, I guess that makes you GREAT too.

I like what Atena said about thinking about the positives and what I want in the end. That's why I made that vision board. It helps me focus on positives a few times a day.

Hope, I am a thyroid cancer survivor. I gained a about 30 pounds with the all of the thyroid issues I had. I was tired of the way I felt about myself and my inability to lose weight.
I have always eaten very healthy overall but I was a breakfast skipper. I have lost about 35 pounds in the last 6 months. What I did was -
1. I do a low fat, low cal protein shake when I first get up in the morning.
2. I hired a personal trainer. She was the best and is a great motivator.
3. Now I simply maintain the exercise she gave me and am getting ready to start PX90 program.

My weight loss was about 1.3 pounds per week. Now I am working on the last 10 pounds that I wanted to lose before cancer. I feel great. I have also been able to start eliminating and reducing some of the medications I was on.

By adding the protein shake in the morning it was like I starting kick starting my metabolism and the pounds started coming off. I hate to exercise, but now am starting to crave it.
Even on the days I don't want to, I have a dog that forces me to walk her several times a day. so that helps to keep the momentum going as well.

I have struggled with this for a couple of years; so what I am getting at is - if I can do it......

Thanks for all the advice. What kind of protein shake? I initially lost 25 lbs from just having the diabetes untreated. Then after I got on the meds and changed my carb intake...I lost about 20 more lbs...the last 15 have been from pure starvation over this whole mess.

My appetite is coming back so I want to be careful and not go backwards. I'm thinking of doing Atkins to jumpstart things a bit. I'll be so happy just to get to 200...that would be 35 more lbs from where I am now. I haven't weighed 200 since my 20s.

I just posted pics of myself on my FB page...i'm tired of hiding my face and not getting in pics with my kids. I had my mom take alot of us today at the special olympics...we had a great time.

I miss my husband terribly, but if I stay dark then I can try to remember the good times before all this happened. I do often imagine us together again, but I know that is a hope that may never be.

I started off using medifast shakes. They are simple and easy - low cal, low fat, high protein. I cannot do their diet - which is essentially 5 medifast meals and 1 lean and green meal. I need to chew more than that.

Now the shake I make is a recipe from Katie Lee; it is:

1 cup low fat Kefir (I use organic)(Kefir is very high in protein)
1 cup frozen berries (I like to mix it up between blueberries, strawberries, mango, or a berry medley)
1/4 cup whole oats
1/4 cup pomegranate juice
1-2 tablespoons agave nectar
I blend it all in the magic bullet until smooth and drinkable.

Healthy and fairly yummy; it is a drink so I can get it down quick. I still don't like to "eat" breakfast, but I can drink this and then move on to my coffee. Which like I said has helped to kick in my metabolism.

I know what you all have said, but I never believed he would be able to go this long without talking to his babies. Even when we would go on trips or to my mom's, he would call everyday to talk to me or them. I worry alot about my DS7. He's got so many issues already and he loves men role-models. My dad is all he has right now for a father figure.

I'm going to try and focus on my goals right now which include my weight loss and accomplishing some real family time with my kiddos. I'm so looking forward to having Monday off.

hope, a good protein shake for diabetics is isopure low carb powder with an ounce of heavy liquid cream and a raw egg. I mix it with 8 oz of water, 8 oz of crushed ice in my little shake mixer. Its real easy to make and you can drink it out of the blender cup. It will keep you full all morning. I bought mine for $15 at Walmart. here

I was brushing up on my diabetes research today and Dr Bernstein, the Diabetes Solution, http://lowcarbdiets.about.com/od/bernsteinsdiabetesdiet/a/howtostarttips.htm recommends no more than 30 grams of carbs a day. I didn't dig deep, but it would make sense he means low glycemic carbs and not junk food carbs. Low GI carbs are salads with low carb dressing like Ranch or Blue Cheese, green beans, broccoli, cabbage.

If I were diabetic, I would avoid fruit like the plague because it is going to cause an blood sugar response. I WAS hypoglycemic before I got on this diet and I know fruit wreaks havoc on my blood sugar. If I do indulge at all, which is rare, I eat something out of the berry group.

hope, i love your picture! You are so pretty!!

Thanks Melody, I appreciate that. I'll try these things. I am totally careful with fruit. If I eat any...it's apples. I'm thinking of starting the atkins on Monday. I've been doing Weight Watchers, but I think a change would do myself good.

Of course more "sweatin" days like today would help me alot. I do need to exercise more. I have a gym membership and several training sessions left from last year. I just need to start it up again. I'm wasting my money by not going.

Let me know if you want any menu ideas or recipes. Its real easy once you get the hang of it. And there is no diet that is better for regulating your blood sugar.

Will you check out that link from that diabetes doctor? There is some great information in there for diabetics. The diabetics on our lowcarb.com forum rave about this guy. He is THE guru of weight loss and getting diabetes under control at the same time.

That shake I posted above will fill you up but it won't give you a blood sugar spike. It will keep you full all morning and will keep your blood sugar nice and level.

Well, two of My H's relatives removed me from facebook as their friends. I thought it was some kind of accident, but I now realize that his sister probably encouraged this.

Isn't it funny that no one wants to believe the truth. It's ok for them that their brother abandoned his children and cheated on his wife....interesting.

You find out real quick who is a friend to your marriage and who is not. Those who are NOT can go fly a kite... If your H ever wakes up from his fog he will not remember those relatives fondly. He will remember they did not help him or his marriage or his children in their greatest time of need.

Those people don't even have contact with my children and never have. In all the 20 years that we've been married, none of them have contacted my children or called them. Maybe once a year on a birthday. So now I'm starting to think that his sister's ex told her about my message to him on facebook. He won't friend me and now his son and her sister have hacked me off of there. She's probaby scared that I will send a message about his affair. It doesn't matter, I could still send a message if I wanted to.

I don't know why I'm obsessing on his relatives knocking me off facebook, but I am. I always knew that his sister would be like this...I mean after all...she was willing to lie for him to cover his backside. Isn't that a lovely family?

I worry about my SIL getting ahold of my daughter and talking to her. They are all suppose to go with him next weekend. He's so convincing; he'll have them all believing his bull. Sometimes I think I'm wrong. Was it worth all this? It's funny how the least little thing effects me.

Unfortunately this is very true. Just remember who is YOUR support system. Your family and friends are who you need to keep around you right now. Do not allow those who would enable the addict to bring you down.

Mymissy is exactly right!


Hope, you are in a habit of following your emotions, rather than the facts. Your emotions are trained to doubt and second guess every thing you see. The way out of this is do REALITY CHECKS by putting aside your emotions and reviewing the FACTS.

What are you "wrong" about? Are you wrong that your husband was having an affair in the face of all the evidence? If you are wrong, then why wouldn't he jump all over your offer to right that wrong by taking a polygraph? You gave him a path out and he declined.

If you are "wrong" then why didn't the OW come to court and clear her good name when given the opportunity?


These are hypotheticals, hope. And this may happen, but if it does, there is nothing you can do about it except to continue to tell your children the truth.

I know...........I'm trying to change my pattern of thinking.

I think the devil has a way in when we let our emotions rule our thinking. It is a way to scare us and keep us weak and crippled. Every time I allow my emotions to rule me I am thrown all the place.

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Jeremiah 17:9

He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool: but whoso walketh wisely, he shall be delivered.
Proverbs 28:26 (King James Version)

I believe that....I've always allowed my mind to be a battlefield with me usually losing. I have hope that God will prevail. I know the truth, but I let my circumstances control me.

I don't understand why I can have a really great day and then have such a pit of a day the next.