I'll try this again....

I touched on this in my own thread but I didn't get any responses.

Anyone chime in, please. I'm curious as to how many of you decided to go on meds to help get you through this. How did it work for you? How long were you/have you been on it? I know it's personal but I guess not much more personal than sharing intimate details of your marriage.

There may be people reading that could be struggling with the idea of taking something. ( especially if it is their first time) I think it could be helpful to see that it is not a sign of weakness, but rather another tool to help get you through.
I have been on my med since jan. 18th. It has definitely helped but I am wondering how long I will have to be on it, so hearing some of your experiences would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

I have been on meds since a little after Dday...but I had undiagnosed clinical depression...so I dont know if I can help with the how long aspect...but, they were a life saver for me.

I came VERY CLOSE to going BATTY in Plan A. I told my friends a couple of times that I thought I NEEDED meds. I think if it went on for even a few more DAYS, my friends would have driven me to the doctor's and MADE me get some.

If/when my WH came home, I would DEFINITELY need them.

The Med Thread..... sorry, I just love that title

I've been on Wellbutrin for years due to a pituitary tumor...most of us with them are on some sort of AD; it was an extremely low dose.

After d-day #2 I had it upped to the maximum dose and it helped me tremendously. I'm now back down to a very low maintenance dose.

After D-Day I knew I needed ADs, so when I went to see my doctor, I had to beg her to let me take them. She was very resistant, probably because I was healthy so far, and wanted to know why I was asking for ADs. I said "marital problems", but she wasn't satisfied with that and was probing to see if I was being abused. When I broke down, she immediately gave me samples and wrote me up a script. I got Lexapro, 10 mg a day, and it started working almost immediately. It worked great for me, but after a couple of months I stopped because I felt as if I really didn't need them (and I was beginning to forget to take them anyhow). Also, it wasn't helping us out in the SF department, I was so desensitized.

Thanks! I was just thinking what I could name another thread in order to get more response. Like "What do I gotta do, show my boobs?" or "My husband cheated on me with my grandmother's lesbian lover"

Desperate times....:)

It's fluoxitine (sp?) for me. Anyone else take that one? How does it work for you?

Thats Prozac....I have never taken that one..

It works ok, but when I first started taking it it made my anxiety worse for the first week or so. Also, I'm tired a lot in the evenings. But I guess I'm one of those people that when really depressed I just want to sleep. Immediately after dday I would be exhausted eary in the evening. Sometimes I would be upstairs under a blanket before 6pm!

That, thankfully is a lot better.

I get tired too....For me the meds made me more tired at first, then that mostly went away....My doctor gave me Wellbutrin to give me more energy to offset the tiredness...did you tell your doctor that?....sometimes they can mix stuff or change your dose...

Awakening to the horror of what I had done and been after D-Day and confronting the reality of the carnage I left in my wake, I was put on low dose Remeron during my three day stay in the hospital. Knowing that one year was kind of a break point for meds, beyond which getting off of them was less and less likely, I quit them after one year. That was about six months ago. Since then, I have progressivly become less and less able to handle the down times of my BS, becoming more and more emotionally upset at each trigger, with more self-loathing and tearfulness. Finally, during a particularly bad time for my BS in the last few weeks, I realized that I was becoming incapable of giving her the support she needed to recover and was becoming truly clinically depressed. So, I re-started these threee days ago and am just now starting to get used to them again. They seem to be helping already. As a physician, I am beginning to believe that clinical depression creeps up on a person, and that it is not at all good to allow this to happen, particularly if you are trying to recover (or in my case, actually build for the first time) a real marriage.

I've since upped my dose. So I think I'm getting closer to my theraputic number. I did tell my doc about the tiredness but since it started before the med and it does seem to be getting better...I'm ok with it.

Over the years I have been on several types of SSRIs and a tri-cyclic AD for anxiety.

After I found out about my WH's A, I scheduled a STD panel with my OBGYN. At that time she prescribed Zoloft for me. I started it that weekend, and had to immediately come off of it because I got dramatically worse on it and was afraid I would have suicidal tendencies with it.

After re-consulting with my OBGYN I started taking a B-50 vitamin everyday, and up until last week that helped a lot. Things have seemed alot harder for me recently, so I talked to my Primary doctor last week and express that my depression was so deep at the moment that I was not is a stable place. I knew there was no way for me to work on our M when I could not allow any feelings other than anger and pain.

So she called in a script for Sarafem (Prozac for PPMD) and I started taking that this past Saturday. It has made a world of difference already. Every one around me has commented that I appear more relaxed and chipper. I have even had a few playful feeling.

Prozac is the one drug I have always been leery of, but right now it feels like a godsend.

Green-Thankyou for sharing. My h had been experiencing a mild depression, I think. It makes sense though. He really had to hold everything together for a while and now that I'm feeling a little stronger it's like he has been able to start reeling from all that's happened. He is doing good though, but I can somewhat relate to the pain he must be going through being the cause of someone elses pain.

Eluna- I'm curious about the b vitamins. I frequently hear they are supposed to help with depression.

Carka,

Supposedly B6 will help depression and sometimes B12. I have also been reading up on Bh or insitol (I think that is the spelling) and found some evidence that is can be effective in both depression and OCD.

However after speaking with my MIL who is way into vitamins, I decided to go with the B-50 since most all of the B vitamins are in the supplement and they tend to work best when taken together.

I will say that I know it has help me some because for the first time in my life I now have natural fingernails. I have always bitten them, and after being on the b-50 for a few weeks, I all of a sudden noticed that I was growing nails. Now I have pretty much stopped biting.

Interesting.. I'm also curious about the omega oils. I'll have to look into it more. I currently have a hard time remembering to take my multi-vitamin. I think I would forget my butt if it wasn't attached.

I wish I could forget my butt.

LOL!