Originally Posted by Roy_Williams
So, is exposure to the OM's mother desirable? If so, how do I do this? I have found her on facebook and, through that, found her address and phone number.

It is imperative that you inform her that her reality is a facade, and that her husband is not what he appears to her to be. Please do NOT neglect this! Pick up the phone NOW. You want to see the A killed dead? This is one of the most effective ways to do it.

Explain to her who you are, and that you are calling to inform her that your spouses are having an A. Explain that you have proof if she wishes to see it. Do not threaten OM to her! This will alarm her and possibly cause her to avoid you. You need to establish a rapport with her - she will be a valuable tool. Both of you need to stay in touch with each other to confirm that the A doesn't reignite.

Do NOT tell your WW that you are going to do this - just DO IT. If you tell her, she'll tell OM and he'll get to his BW before you do. He'll spin you to look like a nut case with an axe to grind.

D-Day 2-10-2009
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