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When Good People Have Affairs
by Mira Kirshenbaum
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It feels like you are advertising for someone.
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When Good People Have Affairs
by Mira Kirshenbaum Sorry, but this is a dumb book that will destroy your marriage if followed. It was likely written by a waytard who is looking to justify adultery. This review says it all: Kirshenbaum not only maintains that divorce may not be such a bad thing in certain circumstances (and here, my experience teaches me that she's not all wrong on this), she also advises husbands or wives who have affairs not to go home and own up, because discovery of the truth can cause more damage than concealment (I hate to agree with her but in some situations I've often wondered the same thing.) She also writes: Kirshenbaum writes: "You've moved ahead in life but your spouse has stayed behind. Having an affair is your way of being with someone you think better matches your circumstances." Kirshenbaum writes: "You need help of some sort - maybe boosting your self-esteem - and an affair is your way of getting it."
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
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The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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