That's it. My wife is periodically calling the OM and in my efforts to prevent love busters, I decided to contact OM this morning without my w knowing this. We are starting to make progress but getting a commitment from her not to contact him is tough at this time. I'm trying to be very kind and patient with her in a sincere effort to restore our marriage. <P>I called and asked OM if he is still returning her calls and he acknowledged that he is. I told him to "understand this, that if he continues any further contact with her that this will become a nasty situation for him". He said he understood.<P>This guy is an OB-GYN in the community and I think my comments will scare him as he was just sucessfully sued this past spring for malpractice.<P>I feel relieved for finally approaching him with my anger. I think and hope he got the message. I would love to hear comments on my response to OM.<P>------------------<BR>tanker0076<BR>

From the sound of it, you were very calm.... I confronted my H's "friend" (aka - the brainless twinky) last week. You might find it interesting, maybe even humorous, to read. It seems like there are a lot of us who have decided enough is enough. <P>I hate to say this, but OM will probably tell your W about your call, so, you probably didn't avoid a love buster there. Keep us posted about what happens.<P>Right there with ya!<BR>B<P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>

Thanks. I stopped being so confrontial to my wife several weeks ago especially seeing her so depressed and in the withdrawal stage. I finally decide to confront OM for a change so he knows where I'm coming from. He knows me very well as we "were" good friends. During the past 4 weeks, W has expressed that she recognizes how hard I have been working to help her and see her through this time despite no support from her.

Dear Tanker,<P>I think you were far to easy on this guy. This guy is a menace to the community and to the medical profession. He has taken an oath not to do what he did. This was not an even playing field. I would report the guy.