Well, I am facing another meeting which H called for. I assume he wants to get as much straightened out as possible before the lawyers get involved. Tonite I am going to hit him with questions about our son. The prospect of this has me feeling sick. I know I will get "the look" from him which means he has shut out whatever I have to say. But since he has decided to start proceedings soon, his emails have been positively upbeat. He is one happy camper, altho he looks like crap. Oh well, who knows?? He won't really answer questions so I don't know what his life is really like.<BR><BR>Wish me luck, that I can maintain my dignity and speak with a clear head.

No advice. You are such a strong lady. I will be thinking about you. I know you will maintain dignity. Such a shame our children have to suffer.

ATW:<P>Stick to your guns and fight for the benefit of your son. That is the most important thing, much more than financial & property settlements, how anybody "feels", or what's driving your husband to be such an *******. Do it respectfully but be firm.<P>You'll be in my thoughts tonight. I know you will do just fine.

Hi ATW,<BR>How did it go? How are you? I am sure you did fine - You are second to none in the "dignity and clear-headedness" department!<P>Let us know...<P>Starpony

It went ok, no falling apart, etc. But it was very strange. He talked about mutual friends, was showing interest in extended family members, new babies, etc. He wants some of his things and is considering renting storage space for them, but I suggested he just come over and pick what he wants and I will store them in the basement. I asked when he is filing, and he said basically not now because he is trying to save money. He is vague about where he is living, made it sound like he bounces around. I asked if he has been to many clubs and he said no, but he has found a cheap movie theatre and does that alot. He also is ready to meet our son. Sooooo..... I am still in limbo and feel very sad for him and me.<BR><BR>He gave me a big hug goodbye and he rubbed my back very sweetly. We were like best of friends. <BR><BR>Hey, life goes on....

ATW - I wish you the best of luck with the whole process now facing you. There is life after divorce, sometimes even (eventually) better than before. Keep up your spirits! Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex<P>P.S. But what's with your H not filing? Here's a little warning based on my own experience and others I've talked to. If you are going to go through it, it's better to get it done and over with instead of letting the separation just drag on, which can be very draining.