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My son has turned 18 and my ex and him are arguing according to my son.... and I believe my son. They have often locked horns.
My son wants to stay here tonight and for a while until he gets things squared away. Problem: this is my ex's week. My son has asked me to please not get involved and not text back to his my ex. I receive child support and I'm concerned about what my responsibilities are.
I breed independence and confidence in my son... my ex berates him and even said in anger today... you haven't earned a summer vacation... when you get your act together by getting a full time job (for the summer... college in the fall) you can come back home.
But then I get this text from my ex... who always verbally abused me and said mean things to me just last week via text.
please give your two cents...
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Once the kids are that old, it becomes very difficult to "make" them do anything. I have a 21 year old daughter and a 19 year old son. I have happy with both of my well-behaved and responsible kids. At 18, the best I could do with mine was "advise" them. If your ex would like to spend time with your son, he should be discussing it with your son at this point.
Last edited by stillstanding2; 06/14/10 06:07 PM.
Over it.
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That is tough, especially at your son's age. I can see where you feel caught in the middle, however I would probably respect your son's wishes and let him work it out with his dad.
You said this was your son's week to see his dad, may I ask what your custody arrangement is?
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every other week we switch off
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CKL, are you in the US? If so, visitation is only in effect until your children reach the age of majority.... That would be voting age. Usually, the court cannot force your H to pay child support after this time either, but sometimes a spouse will continue to support a child.
I would discuss this with your son if he is getting financial support from his dad. Not seeing his dad may affect college, and other expenses. Of course, YOU are not required to make up for the lack of support your ex would stop paying.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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