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Your very foggy, wayward spouse discovers you exposed and attacks with intelligent statements like:

"I was going to work on the marriage, now I'm not!!" dramaqueen [they were "working on the marriage by having an affair! grin]

"I can't believe you would besmudge me with amnesty!!" dramaqueen[hope_eternals H said this to her!] rotflmao rotflmao

" I can never trust you again!!" dramaqueen

"you hurt the OW and her husband by calling him!!" dramaqueen
[as if telling the victim about the crime committed against them hurt them worse than the crime! ]

When their head spins like Linda Blair's in the Exorcist, DO NOT LAUGH! If you feel a laugh coming on, quietly leave the room.

rotflmao <-----DO NOT DO THIS, PEOPLE!! naughty

It is a LOVEBUSTER to laugh at the foggy antics of your wayward, people! naughty


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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How bout "I would never do that to you"

It's ok to screw some guy and leave you family after 15 years though.

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Didn't happen to me but...

some waywards wives try to tell their betrayed husbands that OM is going kick their butts for exposing.

This is just poppycock...

OM's puff up as a show for their affair partner but when the time comes to show up and fight...

they ALWAYS slither away.

They KNOW they are pond scum in it for a cheap thrill (but they don't have to tell your wife that).

They also KNOW that THEY are the ones deserving of the beating (and constantly fear physical violence)....so if you get this one from your wayward wife ...."OM's going to get you" just answer "oh, I've already got a plan for OM" which will get back to him and make HIM scared and/or worried about what "your plan" could possibly entail.

Mr. Wondering

p.s. - One caveat...I could actually see a OM going after a Betrayed Husband but only in some ill-conceived notion of standing up for his affair partner/YOUR WIFE. It really depends on how much she's lied to him about you and how convincing and coniving she is. If he's her puppet...he may just try something (anything) so be prepared to defend yourself with a digital recording device and/or a DEFENSIVE weapon of your choice.


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"You CAN'T tell OMW! She is crazy and will kill their children!"



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some waywards wives try to tell their betrayed husbands that OM is going kick their butts for exposing.

years prior to me finding out I was joking about me whooping the OM's [censored] in a fight. This was probably just after she resumed contact to her long lost best friend. She told me he would kick my butt if I tried.

Funny but after I caught him and confronted him on the phone he had nothing to say. Where was all that big bad Chair Force master sargeant bravado then? All he would say was you should talk to your wife about this. Little scared punk. He knows where I live. Id actually love for him to whoop my [censored] that way I could try him in both criminal and military courts. Ive taken butt whoopens for alot less important reasons.

No such luck though. He wasnt even a telephone gangster. If I end up across from him in a deposition pretty sure ill be the one looking down at his sorry shamed [censored].


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Your very foggy, wayward spouse discovers you exposed and attacks with intelligent statements like:

"I was going to work on the marriage, now I'm not!!" dramaqueen [they were "working on the marriage by having an affair! grin]

"I can't believe you would besmudge me amnesty!!" dramaqueen[hope_eternals H said this to her!] rotflmao rotflmao

" I can never trust you again!!" dramaqueen

"you hurt the OW and her husband by calling him!!" dramaqueen
[as if telling the victim about the crime committed against them hurt them worse than the crime! ]

When their head spins like Linda Blair's in the Exorcist, DO NOT LAUGH! If you feel a laugh coming on, quietly leave the room.

rotflmao <-----DO NOT DO THIS, PEOPLE!! naughty

It is a LOVEBUSTER to laugh at the foggy antics of your wayward, people! naughty

Ok how about.......

"but she is a single mom and exposing her will cause pain to her kids"

my response.....
" she did not care about the pain she was going to cause my son by trying to break apart our family, so I don't give a rat's behind about her or her problems. She should have thought of the before she messed in my marriage"



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After breaking NC by emailing OW and then talking with her on the phone for about 10 days, WH said to me, "Why don't you leave those poor people alone?". This occurred after I spoke to OWH about the contact.

I would have laughed if I had not been so busy having an AO.

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I can't believe you would besmudge me amnesty!!" skeptical

What does THAT mean? rotflmao

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Originally Posted by committedandlovi
I can't believe you would besmudge me amnesty!!" skeptical

What does THAT mean? rotflmao

commie

We think he meant "besmirch me with animosity!!" But in his fury it came out "besmudge me with amnesty!" rotflmao


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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We think he meant "besmirch me with animosity!!" But in his fury it came out "besmudge me with amnesty!"

OMG...that is the funniest thing that I have ever heard. rotflmao

I choked on my C7up....

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We think he meant "besmirch me with animosity!!" But in his fury it came out "besmudge me with amnesty!"

OMG...that is the funniest thing that I have ever heard. rotflmao

I choked on my C7up....

commie

Hey, I know how you feel!! I about busted a gut when she read that off to me over the phone! rotflmao She called me up all upset and was reading that text and I don't think it dawned on her until I started laughing uncontrollably how goofy that was!!


7Up, huh???? mad


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commie, I am so glad to see you back!! Have you seen Dr Harleys article on exposure? If you haven't seen it, it is over on the newsletter forum and is really good! All those debates about exposure have finally been put to bed!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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7Up, huh????


Oooops.... grin

Hey, tell the powers that be to make something comparable to cherry 7up.

Are ya'll Sierra Mist?

Have them make it cherry flavor...it would sell good for the "pretty" factor alone.

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Can't say I blame ya, I love cherry Dr Pepper. yummmmmmmmmmmmmm


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Have you seen Dr Harleys article on exposure?


Oh yeah....I figure I can't let my fingers do the talking unless I've read up on the basics.


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Originally Posted by committedandlovi
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Have you seen Dr Harleys article on exposure?


Oh yeah....I figure I can't let my fingers do the talking unless I've read up on the basics.

Its basically what we have been telling posters for years, except he does prescribe a more nuclear, global exposure. He calls it the "single most important first step toward recovery." Guess he does advocate exposure! grin


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
"I can't believe you would besmudge me with amnesty!!" dramaqueen

Give that man the phone number to Amnesty International...he needs protection! rotflmao


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Melody....I acutally think he meant it just that way. I would like to believe that he does not know how to speak properly.....LOL. After all, everything he has said thus far has been rediculous!!!!

He probably really thinks that besmudging is an actual word.

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Can't say I blame ya, I love cherry Dr Pepper. yummmmmmmmmmmmmm

That may get you back in Prisca's good graces after that inappropriate Lennon Sisters remark last week!


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Can't say I blame ya, I love cherry Dr Pepper. yummmmmmmmmmmmmm

That may get you back in Prisca's good graces after that inappropriate Lennon Sisters remark last week!

grin


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