Sheba,<P>I am so sorry! I know some of your pain and I can't imagine.<P>Big {{{{{{{{SHEBA}}}}}}}}<P>I am going to the mantle right now to light candle for you in prayer. <P>I wish I had more to say or a way to make you better. <P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

I know it feels that way right now. But don't worry about that today, there will be plenty of time tomorrow.<P>Get angry if you want, cry, whatever. Don't stuff the feelings. <P>This just plain stinks and it hurts. <P>But you will be OK. You have hope. You are just too loving not to be loved.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

One day at a time, Sheba, one day at a time. Do whatever you need to do to get through today. It's ok.<P>We're all here.<P>Lori

Are you unclogged yet?<P>Sheba, I am realizing through this nightmare that Christ is the only one that I <B>know</B> will be there for me no matter what. I put a lot of faith in my wife thinking she would always be there for me. that what we had was special and indestructable. I was wrong. I still can't believe what has happened. I no longer see her as "perfect". Nor do I hold that vision of myself.<P>Don't give up on trusting and don't give up men either - we are not all running with scissors. you are going to come out of this stronger and wiser and more dependednt on Christ. <P>You need to grieve for a major loss in your life. As FHL stated, you have been given a tremendous gift to love unconditionally. Blessed is the man who captures your heart Sheba for his cup will overflow.<P>We are all growing through this trial. Your time will come. A real man who recognizes your value will come. Your heart is too big Sheba. You have too much to offer.<P>We are here for you.<P>SHA

Sorry you're so sick and miserable. <P>Do you have any good music to listen to? Just don't fall into anything down that can keep you there. Someone said worship music is great for depressed moods. Just take care of yourself and don't push too hard right now.<P>If your husband was in his right mind, he'd be proud of you from all your hard work and effort.

Just to let you all know how really wacky my life is.......<P>Here I am all upset and at the end of my hope with H and guess who just called!!!<P>YUP!!! The one and only love of my life!!! The big jerk!!!<P>He's all non-chalant and happy-go-lucky talking like....Babe-this and Babe-that and how you feel? grrrrrrr!!!<P>Then he throws in things aboutthe divorce and what do I want and stuff about whatever it takes to "make me go away'...!!! (made him apologiz for that one!!) Then he goes back to Babe..this and that, again......<P>He has my head spinning so much that I could do the remake of the Exorcist!!!<P>He's coming over with the check and now I really have to make it to that shower!!<P>See - this is all just too much for me right now!!! Thank God for all of you!!<P>Stand by cuz I know I'll be back for more help when he leaves....<P>Thanks and Hugs,<P>Sheba<P>PS - what to do with big puffy red eyes?<BR> UGH!!!!!!<P><BR>

I'm sorry.

sheba-<P>here is a quote that has heped me out a lot. <BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be hendeling your problems today. I do not need your help, so sit back and have a good day" of course, my favorite Bible text comes to memeory that God will not let us go through more than we can handle. It at times and I by no means have experienced the pain that you have, but we all have our hurts in life. I wish some of your dedication would rub off on my W, it seems that after our talks with dr. "H", things get worse and I dont know what to do. your inspiration has been a tremendous help to me. I will pray especialy hard for you tonight. please continue to pray for strength, courage and determination and of course faith in our God. if i was there i'd give you a big hug right now.<BR>jerry-

Hi Sheba-<BR>I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself. Do not let him destroy your spirit. <P>Starpony

Sheba,<P>I wish I could say something to take away your pain.<BR>I am saying a prayer for you. My God ease your breaking heart, my He wisdom fill you up and may His love shine in you.<BR>You are a wonderful, wise woman. You h has no idea what he is doing right now.<BR>I want you to stop focusing on him and your relationship and put your focus on the Lord.<BR>He will NEVER leave you.<P>Sending you a hug and the strength and widsom do make it through this time.<P>Cheryl

hi sheba, can i come over and give you a hug, a bottle of wine, and a big shoulder? Or how about a hand to pull you up out of the ditch? <BR>You are going to be fine sheba. (((hugs))) cl

First, I want to thank you all for responding to my call of distress today.<P>Any words I write here could not come close to expressing my gratitude for all the comfort, hugs, wise words and prayers.....the warmth that spread over me and lifted my spirit is testimony to just how wonderful you all are. <P>The quick response from God to aid in that lifting of the dark cloud that was looming over me is testimony that God is listening and does answer our prayers.<P>Both of these testimonies keep reminding me that there is strength and love to be had even in the darkest of times...as long as there are people in this world that care for others!!!<P>Through all of your own pain and suffering you were there to help and I can not sufficiently say anything except that I hope that kindness is returned to you tenfold.<P>Again Thank You, for you are all truly "my Angels"......<P>On some individual notes:<P>Distressed - Thank you for your wise words...And in the end it is all we have - to still be capable of giving and receiving love!! Perhaps this is the lesson in this mess.<P>Tryng Hard - I am sorry for all you and your Wife are going through...give her some time to digest and process all that has happened. You're right that we can only control ourselves. We must concentrate on doing what we can and pray that they will see that life can be better.<P>Joanie - Thank you for holding on to me....If it wasn't for you and the others I just might have slid too far down.<P>SHA - What can I possibly say to you!!<BR>That prayer changed my tears from life draining to hopefilled once more. I agree that our spouses are not perfect and that nothing can be taken for granted as forever!! Except God and Christ... You did make me chuckle with the "unclogged yet?" and "running with scissors"....Thanks!! I hope that I don't develop a fear of this happening again.....I need the "touch" of body and soul with a partner - I know that I do!! Perhaps that is why I became so despondent...cuz I haven't had that "oneness" in a long, long time.....It is what makes me whole!!<P>WS - Instead of "Calgon"....could you take me away? LOL!! Yes, I think I am in desparate need of some place and some time away from thinking and living with all this..... Think of someplace that I can ship myself cuz I can't afford a ticket!!!! I WANT SOME FORM OF NORMAL....whatever that is!!<P>Butterfly - Thanks for the Hugs and I think I cried it all out.....never know for sure, though!!! Thanks for the sermon summary.....I hope that some walls will come down at some point....at least if I got a window!!!<P>FHL - Again, what can I possible say to you - my mentor!!! Thank you and you know that I hear and listen to all you have to say ..... I know that what you say about H is true!! Wait till you hear what he says now!! I'll put it on a new thread cuz this is long. Thank you for always being there for me!!<P>Kat - Hi Twin...Another person who is always so caring to me....Thank You!!<BR>Showing you care IS doing something and it is the most important "something" that I need the most!! Yes, I agree that H does need the frying pan or the 2x4 or even Lostva's MIL!!! LOL...Thanks for the Hug!!<P>Robilar - I am glad to see you are back safe and sound...I will hopefully get to your thread soon!! Thanks for your wise advice and I did take a walk (with my dog) and did all the things that you suggested and they helped!! I don't think that I could give up if I wanted to!!!<P>ES - Thanks for the thoughts and prayers...They help tremendously!! I took your advice and slept for an hour after H left....had to cause my eyes and head hurt so much!!!<P>Lostva - Thanks for your kind words. Hopefully, my feelings were just an eruption of frustrations and I will once again get strong!! I know - ne day at a time!!!! Didn't end up in the padded room - so I guess I made it through today OK!! LOL!!<P>Chris - Thanks...Your advice always gets right to the heart of what I need at the moment!! Thanks for the Hugs!!<P>Samantha - Thank you for taking the time from your own pain to hel me with mine...I have to get to your thread too!! I appreciate the candle and prayer....please know that they are returned from me to you. Somehow we will all get through this.<P>Leah - Thanks for your advice and I think that I am definitely in need of some tunes tonight....think I'll do some Sinatra Swing and some Christian Soft Rock!!!<P>Janie - Thank you for your concern. How are things with you? I really have to cach up with this board!! There's just so many of us, you know!!<P>Toolbox - Thanks and I love that quote, too!! Thanks for the thoughts and the prayers...How are things? Did you finish the Questionaire from Dr H?<P>Starpony - Thanks and I am doing my best not to loose it completely!!<P>CeeCee - Hi and Thanks. I try not to dwell on H and the relationship...usually I do OK - but today was not one of those times, that's for sure!!! I'll bounce back - till next time anyway!!!<P>CL - Thanks and I know that I will be OK..... I need the hugs, though!!!<P><BR>HUGS to you all!!!<P>Sheba<P> <p>[This message has been edited by Sheba (edited October 25, 1999).]

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Sheba, <P>Sorry I'm late, didn't see this until just now...<P>I'm so sorry <P>I'm sending a big hug your way!!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Sheba,<BR> I'm so sorry that you're on the downhill slope of this ol' roller coaster.<P> Everybody else is right. You will be fine. Your H, on the other hand, will one day be trying to kick himself in the butt for letting you go.<P> You have been a calming voice and a steady influence amongst us. I wish your H wasn't such a...well, a whack-a-doodle!!!!<P> You can take pride in yourself for being a good and loving wife.<P>{{{{{{Sheba}}}}}}

Hi Deb, NB and SWweetpea -<P>Thank you all so much for the hugs and kind words....it was a rough one today and I am glad that it is over!!!!<P>I am already feeling better and gaining my old strength back....<P>Gonna do a new thread with an update.<P>Again, THANK YOU !!!!<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba