I will have been married for 13 years in Aug. My wife last fall told me that she did not feel a connection to me anymore and did not know if she could be faithful. AS most men I did not listen to help cry for help. In dec. she stated to suffer from panic attacks. In april while at a get together I made the mistake of leaving early. That night my wife played a game of truth or dare with another married man, and a couple from down the street. We have been going to see a cousler, but she can not let the topic go. She has a strong desire to still be around the married man(as friends). We are trying to work through this, but I feel as though she is not putting forth the effort. How can I help us move past this?
Yesterday she was told by our cousler that she has lust for the married man. How do I move past this and how do I help her move past this?

You should click "Notify" and ask the mods to move your thread to "Surviving an Affair". You would probably get more help over there.

Cpen,

She has a strong desire to still be around the married man(as friends)

You know this is absolutely impossible, but do yourself a favor move this to surviving an affair you are not in recovery this is an on going affair.

Gamma