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I'm thinking of playing it. My ww has admitted to an A and wants to totally rebuild our M. The OMW caught them and confronted her. I checked out of the M a year ago and I am DONE. She doesn't want anyone from either of our families to know. Should I use this leverage and say ok, well, then I want 65-70% of marital assets? Is this moral? Am I in a money fog?
Oh, we do have two kids and two dogs. I know D effects them but I just want OUT. Please help.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm guessing he's going to blackmail his WW into giving him more than his fair share of the marital assets in the divorce in exchange for not exposing her to her family.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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BH and I are raising my OC together.
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MG,
I'm curious, what attracted you to Marriage Builders if you just want a divorce?
If you are serious about a Divorce, you should be going for everything.... Home, money, full custody, everything!
Why would you want to settle for 50% or even 70%?
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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MG,
I'm curious, what attracted you to Marriage Builders if you just want a divorce?
If you are serious about a Divorce, you should be going for everything.... Home, money, full custody, everything!
Why would you want to settle for 50% or even 70%? You all seem to know all the rules, laws, leverage associated with infidelity. The HIT from nuclear exposure could be worth some serious cash. CUSTODY! ARE YOU CRAZY? I'm bout to start partying.
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How old are you? Do you not have kids? You need ot think of them FIRST.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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How old are you? Do you not have kids? You need ot think of them FIRST. mid-thirties. FIRST? Shouldn't the cheater have to take the hit on caring extra for them? I mean, they STRAYED. Let them go the extra mile since they are all guilt ridden and such. I'm trying to come out of this smellng like a rose.
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Let's see, your wife had an A, but really wants rebuild your marriage, and all you can think of is getting all the money you can. You have two kids, but you aren't interested in even considering the possibility of recovery. You don't want custody of the kids, because that would mean you can't spend all your time partying.
You may be the first BS I've ever encountered that I have absolutely no sympathy for.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
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OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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So, you're looking at this as an opportunity to dump your wife and kids, maybe even leave the kids living in poverty so you can party????
GROW UP!!!
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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How old are you? Do you not have kids? You need ot think of them FIRST. mid-thirties. FIRST? Shouldn't the cheater have to take the hit on caring extra for them? I mean, they STRAYED. Let them go the extra mile since they are all guilt ridden and such. I'm trying to come out of this smellng like a rose. You think ditching your own kids and leaving them to be raised by your WW is going to make you come out of this smelling like a rose? Mid-thirties? You sound about 18.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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Obviously, BS can still stand for something other than Betrayed Spouse.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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So, you're looking at this as an opportunity to dump your wife and kids, maybe even leave the kids living in poverty so you can party????
GROW UP!!! Ok, I get the kids thing. What about a season? What if I tell her to give me six months worth of partying and dating to make up for her betrayal. I'll move out and get my own apt. Then, I come home and work on the marriage after I have MY FUN. Shouldn't the hurt spouse get something BIG out of the deal?
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So your idea is to have a RA? I think we have Dude's long-lost twin brother here. 
Last edited by karmasrose; 06/29/10 09:39 PM.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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