Program #3: Marriage Builders� Online Program
here As motivating as the Marriage Builders� Home Study Courses are to some couples, there are others who never open the boxes after they arrive. Or they only complete a few lessons before they become distracted and stop trying to solve their marital problems. And in most of these cases, it's only one spouse that is unmotivated -- he or she does not see the importance or urgency. I call that poorly motivated spouse the "reluctant" spouse, and I have spent most of my career as a marriage counselor working with that person to get on board.
When both spouses are motivated to solve the problems in their marriage, they are usually able to complete the courses with ease and don't need additional help. But for the rest of those who can't seem to find time to do the lessons, we have yet another level of motivation: The Marriage Builders� Online Program which combines the Marriage Builders� Seminar and Marriage Builders� Accountability Program into a single and highly effective program of marital recovery. I will describe each of the two components of the program separately.
Program #3A: Marriage Builders� Seminar.
One of the biggest motivational problems that some spouses face as they go through the lessons of His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters is that they don't have the big picture. They don't grasp how each part of the program fits all the other parts. If one spouse doesn't understand how each lesson of these courses helps create a great marriage, how can he or she be motivated to complete the assignments? Where there's poor vision, there's often poor motivation.
So I've provided a way for you to have my entire program of marital recovery explained by me! I do that in the Marriage Builders� Seminar where I take you through every one of my Basic Concepts. I try to give you my vision of why they're so important in marriage. And I also provide special encouragement to spouses who are reluctant to do much to improve their marriage. It enables both spouses to form the same vision and understanding of where their marriage should be headed, and gives them added motivation to accomplish it.
But the Marriage Builders� Seminar does more than just give you the facts. It also helps you organize the problems you face so that you can solve each of them in a systematic way. By the time the seminar is over, you will have completed numerous questionnaires that are designed to help define your marital goals. The accountability program that is described next will help you achieve those goals.
Program #3B: The Marriage Builders� Accountability Program.
I've found that those who experience a marriage enrichment seminar without solving the problems that were uncovered are at a greater risk for divorce than those who do not attend at all. So to avoid that tragic outcome, we insist that every couple that attends the Marriage Builders� Seminar solves the problems that they identify by completing the home study course lessons that that address those problems, and we hold them accountable.
The Marriage Builders� Accountability Program is designed to keep you motivated to complete the home study courses in the following ways:
1. You are assigned an accountability coach who will guide you through the lessons in the home study courses that address your marital goals.
2. Each week we will send by e-mail a survey to document your progress in solving your marital problems.
3. If your survey indicates that you are having problems with any of the lessons, your accountability coach will contact you by telephone to help you overcome those problems.
4. If you have questions or if you need encouragement, you may e-mail or talk to your accountability coach by telephone.
5. Each month, we will evaluate the progress you are making in depositing love units and avoiding their withdrawal by having you complete our Love Bank Inventory. The results will be kept in your permanent file to be revealed to you when the course is completed.
6. If you have a question for me (Dr. Harley) regarding a particular lesson, you may post it on a private section of the Marriage Builders� Forum. I am usually able to respond in about a day. But before you do, read some of the questions that others have posted for that lesson. I may have already answered it.
Programs #3A and #3B -- the Marriage Builders� Seminar and Accountability Program are not available separately. They must be purchased together in the registration fee for the Marriage Builders� Online Program.
How to Register for Marriage Builders� Online Program
In the past, I presented the Marriage Builders� Seminar in person in what I called a Marriage Builders� Weekend. But now it is available only online in the comfort of your own home. That's why I now call it the Marriage Builders�Online Program. The cost of the online seminar and the accountability program is only $995.
If you purchase the Marriage Builders� Home Study Courses, and then decide that you need the Marriage Builders� Seminar and Accountability Program to get through the lessons, the price you paid for the courses will be deducted from your Marriage Builders� Weekend registration fee.
If you feel that you should have a complete overview of my program delivered by me online, and then you should be held accountable to complete the courses that will help you solve all of your marital problems, register for the Marriage Builders� Weekend by calling toll-free 1-888-639-1639 (8:00 am to 12:00 noon CT M-F), or Register Online through our secure registration page.
