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Originally Posted by silentlucidity
rotflmao

I know. I keep looking at that picture and I think I am falling in love. I mean holy cow, there are FOUR Les Baer Primier pistols in that shot!


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Who's the redhead aiming at?

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Looks like she might have a problem with the second woman on the right.


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Do you think she suspects some foul play? skeptical


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Isn't that third woman Sissy Spacek?

I think the red head is targetting her....

Me thinks she would perfer the pigs blood....

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I think redhead must have problem with all the blondes in the club. 'spose one bullet would take care of them all?

Maybe I haven't come as far as I thought...... grin

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But come on! Did you see the guns on those girls?


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Saw you were lurking. Hope you and D are well.

Have a great 4th.

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Hey Chrisner!!![Linked Image from millan.net]

I am counting down to my last day at work. I have 7 work days remaining. Then I am off to the beach with DS, sis and my girlfriend and her son for a few days. Then AZman is coming out here with his son in tow to see the sights in B'more and DC. We will find out in a little over a week whether we were approved to take a tour of the white house and Pentagon. THEN we will try to fit in a trip to Hershey Park.

I have been online reading my thread, seeing where I was and where I'm at. Mimi mentioned along the way that I was going to have good things in my future (I'm paraphrasing, of course), and she was right. I can honestly say I am, for the most part, recovered. I still have my moments, but I don't blame them on the Z anymore, haven't for some time. My problems are all mine, and that's A-Ok. wink

Still have some ups and downs with my sister, because she wants so badly for me to be enmeshed in her chaos, which exists mostly in her mind. She creates issues hoping that I will bite. It's crazy making, IMO. This time it was the classic standard that I keep too much to myself, and don't spend enough time with her and her boyfriend. dramaqueen At which point I gently remind her that I am not the entertainment round these parts.

Whatev!

I have settled much of my business here in order to move on. I'm getting a little nervous, but looking sooooo forward to the change. DS is looking forward to the move EXCEPT he is afraid he won't make friends. I remember feeling like that every time I moved. It's a little scary TEEF but I know he will find friends, we always do.

Unfortunately, I won't have DS on the 4th. It's cool though.

All in all, I am doing very well. The major new development is that, now that DS is 8, he no longer refers to me as 'mommy'. I am now MOM. That's a totally cool new development. It means he is growing up, and the changeover is a milestone for him. He is really a wonderful kid. I better soak it up now, cuz he'll be a surly teenager before I know it sigh

Hope you are doing well, my friend.





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SL,

So good to hear that you are doing well. You have been an inspiration for me for so long. I am not far behind you. Look over your shoulder and you will see me!!

BTW, I will email you. Coming back to your area in a couple of weeks so I hope we can at least meet for a frappacino (I'm really hooked on those things now).


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Oh SL I am sooooooooo very happy for you!!!!!!!....... dance2

You are such an inspiration all around..........

As far as the crazy-making family.....I HEAR ya sista!!!!

One of the best things I have done in my sitch is limit contact with mime. They LOVE bringing up the guilt card though...."but Not, we helped you so much through H's A....."

It sometimes work and I will
Always be grateful for their help but to participate in in the craziness they still thrive on.......I just can't any more..... sigh

Opps....this ain't about me......

Anywho, you're still one of my fav's and a hero to me.....

Loves ya......not

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Originally Posted by Chai
I am not far behind you. Look over your shoulder and you will see me!!

I was wondering why I felt like somebody was following me... TEEF stickout

Reading back on my thread has been interesting to say the least. I can't say that it has been therapeutic, cuz some memories are very tough to read about...takes me back to the moment...the pain...but it's reminded me of some things that I need to continue to work on. It's also helped me, now that I am far removed from much of the situation and drama of my attempts to recover, that I was not crazy back then. It's very tough to live with someone who won't be honest with you, much less himself. sigh

Oh, NOT...the guilt card. That's exactly what came out with my sis the other day. She doesn't believe I spend enough time hangin out with her. I find it odd that anyone would continue to hang out with someone they obviously don't really like...and it seems no matter what I do...sis doesn't much like me, who I am and what I do. I'm ok with me; I'm ok with her to live her life as she sees fit. It's not my business. Meh, whatev. She's been attempting to guilt me since I was with the Z. It's nothing really all that new. She has a hard time accepting that I'm not interested in the same things she is, or even agree with what she believes in. We are SUPPOSED to agree and hang out...cuz we're sisters dramaqueen sigh

It will be good for me to have physical separation from this situation.


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S/L;

Great news from YOU!

Good luck in the AZ...

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I'm so happy for you, Miss Lucidity. hurray

May this be the beginning of all the wonderful things to come into your life! pray

For some reason, I feel like a fortune cookie today. rotflmao Anyone need lottery numbers?

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Originally Posted by Foxy Lady
Anyone need lottery numbers?

AZman is always telling me that I need to play the lottery. I'm not a gambler. Uh-uh...no way. I went to Atlantic City, played the slots, lost $20 and was inconsolable. I just can't do it... crybaby


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SL,

I'm with you on this -

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some memories are very tough to read about...takes me back to the moment...the pain...but it's reminded me of some things that I need to continue to work on. It's also helped me, now that I am far removed from much of the situation and drama of my attempts to recover, that I was not crazy back then.


I've not had the strength to read much of my original thread, but have viewed bits & pieces. I admire your ability to continue to learn from your journey.

It IS wonderful to know we were not and are not CRAZY, isn't it?! MrRollieEyes

I'm so glad to hear that things are going well. You have a plan. You continue to learn & grow. You know who are and what you need from life.

In regards to your dear sis, you obviously see and understand her better than she would like. Sisters are,,, well our sisters. Good, bad, or indifferent - we love them no matter what. Glad her drama & guilt trips are not sucking you into anything negative. It's a pain to deal with sometimes, but sounds like you keep all of that in it's own box where it belongs.

As usual, my admiration for you continues to grow! It's hard to believe DS is getting to be such the BIG little man. He's one lucky guy to have you! Sounds like AZ man knows & appreciates that as well.

Love reading your updates!! Have a wonderful 4th of July holiday!!


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Hi SL,

I just got 'caught up' and it was great having an update on how you are doing.

I may not be on the Board as often... but know that you (and a few others) have a permanent spot in my heart! sigh

Take care. hug

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Good luck to you SL. Did you get a job there this time or are you going to wait until you get there to search?

Keep in touch and send us updates along the way!!!



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I am taking the remainder of my settlment and heading west. I have been thinking about going into teaching, so I may get my certificate and do some substitute teaching. I've been informed by locals that there is a need for AP science teachers. That would be up my alley.

I will also be looking for a job in research, and look at temp jobs. I have enough money to take my time, but it won't last forever.

Thanks for asking, Chai!


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