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My interest is/was purely in the numbers, that is why I joined in here. Unfortunately I find it hard enough to get in UA time as it is, so I will not be able to go through posts and pickout OP position and compile anything - I was purely philosophising.
Would you like your harshness score delivered in metric units?
Here's my rant.....If I go to a doctor for high blood pressure, and he tells me to lose weight, I don't like that. It hurts my self-image. So do I try to spearhead legislation to have doctors stop talking about weight? Stupid. I A. Lose weight, or B. Find a more placating doctor.
If a WS comes here and doesn't like the fact that they are told: you made a terrible choice, confess, be honest No contact for life, get over yourself, be humble, stop obsessing over the man you rutted with...do we begin sensitivity training, or do we just keep telling the truth until they either get it or go away? Duh.
When we start trying to make people word things a certain way and taking the blame every time a wayward CHOOSES to stay in their fog....we have taken on a job that isn't ours. It is not our job to give sensitivity training or to coddle someone we have never met indefinitely.
And if I hear one more wayward say that an anonymous board should "plan A" them I will scream.
I guess the way we interpret the definition here is slightly different. this definition backs up what you say and what I say
oxford english dictionary says " mockery of the fitness of things" among other things; so the song fits pretty well with that.
I still don't see the point, ST...Have you forgotten that you have the option of posting what you consider "less harsh words" to any of these posters that you are concerned about? If you feel that what you deem as "harsh" posts aren't getting through, then by all means you are free to go post in a way that you feel will get through!
It sorta loses something for me to hear people complain about how a hole is being dug when there are ample shovels available for them to pick up and use in any way that they see fit, yanno?
For fun, here's a breakdown of the "irony" in Alanis' song~~~> Isn't it Ironic So it wasn't 100% devoid of irony, but it was dang close...
I would just like to rant that I can't STAND Alanis Morrisett. Her voice is worse than nails on a chalkboard. I'd rather stick my finger in an electric pencil sharpened than listen to her whining. She was everywhere in high school and everyone just loved her. Ironic has to be the lamest song ever written.... The only irony being there are no ironies in the song.... Just more lameness..... Arrerggghhhhhh
See this is what happens when you allow a negative balance to build up in a love bank.... I'm sorry alanis, your account is deep in the red at Vibrissa Bank.
Careful Vibrissa, just last week I got an email accusing me of being YOU [I took that as a huge compliment, btw] If we agree on any subject it's sure to confirm "the big conspiracy", yanno!!! You best take great care to disagree with me from now on, ya hear???
Careful Vibrissa, just last week I got an email accusing me of being YOU [I took that as a huge compliment, btw] If we agree on any subject it's sure to confirm "the big conspiracy", yanno!!! You best take great care to disagree with me from now on, ya hear???
Mrs. W
I saw the post you made and didn't get to respond about how flattered I was to even be considered you. Very high compliment if you ask me.
And if it's a choice between liking Alanis, and being you - I'll be you anyday!
Me & DH: 28 Married 8/20/05 1DD, 9 mo. Just Lookin' and Learnin' HIYA!
Another rant....I first found MB five or six years ago, didn't join, but read some, and bought HNHN. I came back for a short and shameful stint when trying to confess my A. Still read...SAA, HNHN again, etc. Summer of 09 I came again, this time to the boards, read FILSIL. Have participated and have been helped so much by so many.
I would never at this point consider myself a vet. I have much to learn, grasshopper
So when someone comes on with a self-aggrandizing aura and attempts to out-intellectualize vets and long term members... I don't know whether to laugh or spit. I could throw out as well that I am a member of MENSA. Big fat deal. It doesn't prevent me from being imperfect or needing help with my M. So....anyway. That's my hormonal 2 cents for the day. Don't mess with a hormonal bipolar woman with a high IQ and the ability to do verbal gymnastics with the best of 'em. nya!
Of course I am kidding....I am only the THIRD smartest person I know, so I do have some humility. har har
Another rant....I first found MB five or six years ago, didn't join, but read some, and bought HNHN. I came back for a short and shameful stint when trying to confess my A. Still read...SAA, HNHN again, etc. Summer of 09 I came again, this time to the boards, read FILSIL. Have participated and have been helped so much by so many.
I would never at this point consider myself a vet. I have much to learn, grasshopper
So when someone comes on with a self-aggrandizing aura and attempts to out-intellectualize vets and long term members... I don't know whether to laugh or spit. I could throw out as well that I am a member of MENSA. Big fat deal. It doesn't prevent me from being imperfect or needing help with my M. So....anyway. That's my hormonal 2 cents for the day. Don't mess with a hormonal bipolar woman with a high IQ and the ability to do verbal gymnastics with the best of 'em. nya!
Of course I am kidding....I am only the THIRD smartest person I know, so I do have some humility. har har
Well I, for one, seek out your posts Luri...They are some of the best, imo!
You should start using the line our DD10 uses after singing her own praises: "I am the VERY BEST at modesty!"
I would just like to rant that I can't STAND Alanis Morrisett. Her voice is worse than nails on a chalkboard. I'd rather stick my finger in an electric pencil sharpened than listen to her whining. She was everywhere in high school and everyone just loved her. Ironic has to be the lamest song ever written.... The only irony being there are no ironies in the song.... Just more lameness..... Arrerggghhhhhh
See this is what happens when you allow a negative balance to build up in a love bank.... I'm sorry alanis, your account is deep in the red at Vibrissa Bank.
I don't see how anyone can continue to dislike her after that. lol
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience. (Oscar Wilde)
I don't see how anyone can continue to dislike her after that. lol
*begin recording* We're sorry the Vibrissa Bank Love Deposit Department is temporarily out of service due to too many withdrawals by one customer (with an annoying voice) within a 6 hour period. Do not be alarmed. We are fully insured by the Bank of Mr. Vibrissa and should be back up and running shortly. We appreciate your business and have a nice day. *end recording*
Last edited by Vibrissa; 07/23/1011:48 AM.
Me & DH: 28 Married 8/20/05 1DD, 9 mo. Just Lookin' and Learnin' HIYA!