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Vibrissa,

I loved your rant. Best laugh I had today.

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Originally Posted by staytogether
"playing with us"

Not sure who "us" is.

My interest is/was purely in the numbers, that is why I joined in here. Unfortunately I find it hard enough to get in UA time as it is, so I will not be able to go through posts and pickout OP position and compile anything - I was purely philosophising.

Would you like your harshness score delivered in metric units?


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Let's have it in both so that everyone understands.

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Originally Posted by staytogether
Let's have it in both so that everyone understands.


Hey, Pep - if you're tailoring harshness scales. Can I have my posts evaluated on a Richter's scale?

....Just thought I'd get my request in early.

kthxbai!


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Here's my rant.....If I go to a doctor for high blood pressure, and he tells me to lose weight, I don't like that. It hurts my self-image. So do I try to spearhead legislation to have doctors stop talking about weight? Stupid. I A. Lose weight, or B. Find a more placating doctor.

If a WS comes here and doesn't like the fact that they are told: you made a terrible choice, confess, be honest No contact for life, get over yourself, be humble, stop obsessing over the man you rutted with...do we begin sensitivity training, or do we just keep telling the truth until they either get it or go away? Duh.

When we start trying to make people word things a certain way and taking the blame every time a wayward CHOOSES to stay in their fog....we have taken on a job that isn't ours. It is not our job to give sensitivity training or to coddle someone we have never met indefinitely.

And if I hear one more wayward say that an anonymous board should "plan A" them I will scream.

Okay, I'm done now.

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Originally Posted by staytogether
No no no, no intention to demonise posters at all, purely to establish what response works best on what type of OP.

The hypothetical panel would be made up of all sorts, who could give a post a harshness score.

As you say 2 people may give the same post a very different harshness score and take an average.

irony

I guess the way we interpret the definition here is slightly different. this definition backs up what you say and what I say

oxford english dictionary says " mockery of the fitness of things" among other things; so the song fits pretty well with that.

I still don't see the point, ST...Have you forgotten that you have the option of posting what you consider "less harsh words" to any of these posters that you are concerned about? If you feel that what you deem as "harsh" posts aren't getting through, then by all means you are free to go post in a way that you feel will get through!

It sorta loses something for me to hear people complain about how a hole is being dug when there are ample shovels available for them to pick up and use in any way that they see fit, yanno?

For fun, here's a breakdown of the "irony" in Alanis' song~~~> Isn't it Ironic So it wasn't 100% devoid of irony, but it was dang close...stickout

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Originally Posted by Vibrissa
I would just like to rant that I can't STAND Alanis Morrisett. Her voice is worse than nails on a chalkboard. I'd rather stick my finger in an electric pencil sharpened than listen to her whining. She was everywhere in high school and everyone just loved her. Ironic has to be the lamest song ever written.... The only irony being there are no ironies in the song.... Just more lameness..... Arrerggghhhhhh

See this is what happens when you allow a negative balance to build up in a love bank.... I'm sorry alanis, your account is deep in the red at Vibrissa Bank.

rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao

Careful Vibrissa, just last week I got an email accusing me of being YOU [I took that as a huge compliment, btw] If we agree on any subject it's sure to confirm "the big conspiracy", yanno!!! crazy You best take great care to disagree with me from now on, ya hear??? grin stickout grin

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I have not said that I am concerned about posters. Have I? confused I have posted where I think I might be able to say something that helps.

I was never making a point.

Interesting article Mrs W.

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Originally Posted by MrsWondering
rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao

Careful Vibrissa, just last week I got an email accusing me of being YOU [I took that as a huge compliment, btw] If we agree on any subject it's sure to confirm "the big conspiracy", yanno!!! crazy You best take great care to disagree with me from now on, ya hear??? grin stickout grin

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I saw the post you made and didn't get to respond about how flattered I was to even be considered you. Very high compliment if you ask me.

And if it's a choice between liking Alanis, and being you - I'll be you anyday!


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Another rant....I first found MB five or six years ago, didn't join, but read some, and bought HNHN. I came back for a short and shameful stint when trying to confess my A. Still read...SAA, HNHN again, etc. Summer of 09 I came again, this time to the boards, read FILSIL. Have participated and have been helped so much by so many.

I would never at this point consider myself a vet. I have much to learn, grasshopper smile

So when someone comes on with a self-aggrandizing aura and attempts to out-intellectualize vets and long term members... I don't know whether to laugh or spit. I could throw out as well that I am a member of MENSA. Big fat deal. It doesn't prevent me from being imperfect or needing help with my M. So....anyway. That's my hormonal 2 cents for the day. Don't mess with a hormonal bipolar woman with a high IQ and the ability to do verbal gymnastics with the best of 'em. nya!

Of course I am kidding....I am only the THIRD smartest person I know, so I do have some humility. har har

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
Harsh?
I don't consider myself harsh.
I do appreciate the harshness of others !!!!!!!!!
It saves me the trouble!!!!
stickout
think........ Are you NOT harsh cuz you're conflict avoiding????....... rotflmao

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I know I have been less than respectful previously. But I had no intention to do any stirring at all on this thread.

I'm a little surprised at how we got here to be honest.

So I will dip out, out of respect for the OP and because it is good to have a rant thread.

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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
Another rant....I first found MB five or six years ago, didn't join, but read some, and bought HNHN. I came back for a short and shameful stint when trying to confess my A. Still read...SAA, HNHN again, etc. Summer of 09 I came again, this time to the boards, read FILSIL. Have participated and have been helped so much by so many.

I would never at this point consider myself a vet. I have much to learn, grasshopper smile

So when someone comes on with a self-aggrandizing aura and attempts to out-intellectualize vets and long term members... I don't know whether to laugh or spit. I could throw out as well that I am a member of MENSA. Big fat deal. It doesn't prevent me from being imperfect or needing help with my M. So....anyway. That's my hormonal 2 cents for the day. Don't mess with a hormonal bipolar woman with a high IQ and the ability to do verbal gymnastics with the best of 'em. nya!

Of course I am kidding....I am only the THIRD smartest person I know, so I do have some humility. har har

Well I, for one, seek out your posts Luri...They are some of the best, imo!

You should start using the line our DD10 uses after singing her own praises: "I am the VERY BEST at modesty!" grin

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I will throw some kudos your way too, Luri ~ I think you are an awesome poster smile

Here's my rant for the day:
A recent WW who played around with the meaning of NC. Oh you meant NC for life? Isn't that too much pressure all at once?

That's not even waywardness. That's just playing games. That irritated me than the normal fogbabble.


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Originally Posted by Vibrissa
I would just like to rant that I can't STAND Alanis Morrisett. Her voice is worse than nails on a chalkboard. I'd rather stick my finger in an electric pencil sharpened than listen to her whining. She was everywhere in high school and everyone just loved her. Ironic has to be the lamest song ever written.... The only irony being there are no ironies in the song.... Just more lameness..... Arrerggghhhhhh

See this is what happens when you allow a negative balance to build up in a love bank.... I'm sorry alanis, your account is deep in the red at Vibrissa Bank.



I don't see how anyone can continue to dislike her after that. lol



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Originally Posted by CWMI
I don't see how anyone can continue to dislike her after that. lol


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I once heard Morissette's music described as "pre-menstrual rock" and I immediately understood what that meant.


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
I once heard Morissette's music described as "pre-menstrual rock" and I immediately understood what that meant.

Lord, that's descriptive!

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If I were the Black Eyed Peas, I would hunt her down, smack her and say "You Oughta Know" better than to desecrate our foul music! Waka waka!

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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
If I were the Black Eyed Peas, I would hunt her down, smack her and say "You Oughta Know" better than to desecrate our foul music! Waka waka!

*snort*

From one musician to another there is only so much we should have to take! smile


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