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She kicked me out, guess he can move in now!!
Finally Healing working towards the day when I can be a good partner, and choose someone good for me.
Most Current relationship ended with her cheating and kicking me out on the streets.
2 PA 1999 w/ IA.
1 EA 2002.
IA & PA 2003/2004. (while I was deployed and brought the bast*** around my boy)
Thinking is easy, action is difficult; to act in accordance with one's thoughts is the most difficult thing in the world.
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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Sorry Unseen2 that this has happened to you.
Can she legally do this to you?
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Joined: Apr 2008
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I would refuse to leave my own house. Is your name on the mortgage and deed? If she is going to leave you than I'd make her leave. Do you have a place to even go?
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Joined: Feb 2010
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unseen2,
so sorry this is happening to you......go see a lawyer and protect yourself at least...
keep your dignity and class during this.
remember you can't make her decide anything that is up to her, what you can control is you........stand up for yourself, if she wants the marriage to end so she can move on with the OM make her do the work.......
affairs never last, give it time to fall apart in the meantime make sure you are okay and the finances are taken care of and the kids if there are any........
again so sorry.......(((hugs))))
BW 56
WH 57
Married 25 years, live together for 2, dated 2 years before that.....
DS 23, DS 25
D-Day Nov 23/09
NC Mar 1/10
Working on Recovery
Grateful for finding Marriage Builders
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I�m confused about a few things:
This woman isn�t your wife officially. You haven�t married her. She is therefore not having an affair. You never made the commitment to marry. She isn�t committing adultery. She had decided her relationship with you is over and wants you out. She has every right to do this since you�re not married. It also means you don�t have 3 step kids. There were three kids that lived with you while you dated their mother. Don�t rationalize this stuff because doing so is a sign of one of your underlying problems. Accept reality for what it is, not what you want it to be.
I don�t understand why your son is with her. He is not her son. He is YOUR son. So why is he with her and not with you? Some here are advising you to fix yourself first before you are with another woman. I�m going to tell you different. Fix yourself for your son. He�s 9. He�ll be an adult in a few years. You have put him through enough drama as it is and he needs no more. What he needs is a parent with a good head on his shoulder. So get your crap together FOR HIM. Don�t date other women. Put him first. If a relationship happens later, great, but that shouldn�t be a priority. Your son should be first and foremost on your mind. If you get yourself to a point where you don�t need a woman in your life, and are happy to not be looking, THEN you�ll be ready for a relationship.
So get your son. He�s yours, not hers. Coparent him with your ex. Do it for HIM and no other reason.
You are the model of a man for your son. That should be your motivator.
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