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What's with this whole soulmate/kindred spirit nonsense?
I remember telling my WW, "There's 6 billion people on this planet, isn't it a little unusual that your soulmate would be your cousin's next door neighbor?"
WW had no response.
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It's a way of justifying what they are doing.
It MUST be their soulmate. Stolemeat. Because--why ELSE would they leave their spouses and families behind! LOVE is all that can do that!
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One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Personally, I am on my THIRD "soul-mate!" 
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I kind of think that if you have a 'soul mate' who conspires with you to be
dishonest and
cruel to those who depend on and trust in you the most
then,
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That would be very sad to have a soul mate who brings that out in them
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He's a liar, a hypocrite and a cheater.
She's a liar, a hypocrite and a cheater.
Maybe they are soul mates.
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Divorced 3/23/2011
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an [censored]-h@le mate....I have a friend who went thru 30 of them. Yep. I think I mentioned her on one of the threads I post on. SHe is remarkable. ANd every one of them is the one...and special and she never loved anyone like him...till the next one.
MY WH went thru a few of those.
Maybe it takes a particularly childish, immature person to believe in the soul mate theory,
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What's with this whole soulmate/kindred spirit nonsense?
I remember telling my WW, "There's 6 billion people on this planet, isn't it a little unusual that your soulmate would be your cousin's next door neighbor?"
WW had no response. Yes! They are definitely SOLEmates!
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Has this idea of soulmate been fostered by the movies..? What kind of cultural device brought it about?
It is certainly not something we carry from the cave men times!
SO it must be a leaned pattern also because it does not work. If it were an integral part of being human, then we would only have one soulmate and keep him for the rest of our lives...
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ok, now don't throw tomaters at me, but my DH tells me I am his "soul mate."
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OK, tell you DH that in your case Melody, you might be the exception to the rule and yes, he did find quite a woman, no doubt, so he is pretty lucky HOWEVER, I refuse to think that my WH OW has anything remotely resemblant to a soulmate of any kind. SHe is just a dumb-sell in distretch (she stretches her legs very well)  blessing
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SHe is just a dumb-sell in distretch (she stretches her legs very well) blessing OMG, you are hilarious!!
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Anyone whose soulmate would sleep with a married person needs to closely examine their soul.
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Not just sleep...also sneack around!
One day my son and i went of an icecream and we saw WH hiding behind a wall. SO my son says, why is daddy hiding behind there?
I dunno, I said. Well, I did not know of the A then, but later on I found out that neighbor OW would pick WH up with her car. He would wait for her in the neighborhood and then they would go by car to some filthy little spot.
WHo in the world would agree to such a behaviour???? You must be pretty low to do such things even if WH asked her to, she should have said: no way I do these things, hide and seek?
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Yes, I truly believe there is such a thing as a soul mate. I know my husband is mine and he says I am his. Been married for 44 years. Everyone said it wouldn't last, we were way too young to get married (me 18, he 19) but we are still in love. I really believe in soul mates.
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Actually this whole soul mate thing originated from a Greek myth. It starts off that humans had four arms, four legs, two heads, ect. Then, the Greek god, Zeus, fearing their power, seperates them. Thus, dooming them to spend eternity looking for one another. So, to me that says a "soulmate" is a myth. But, I used to believe there was someone for everybody, and I still do. I'm just struggling with things like religion right now and trying to form my own ideas seperate from my all controlling mother.
So much peeling...where am I under all this peeling? Yoo-hoo, are you in there...nothing yet.
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Arrgh. All this stuff I know about Greek myths and I didn't know that?
I learned something new at least.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I believe in the tooth fairy..
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Actually this whole soul mate thing originated from a Greek myth. It starts off that humans had four arms, four legs, two heads, ect. Then, the Greek god, Zeus, fearing their power, seperates them. Thus, dooming them to spend eternity looking for one another. So, to me that says a "soulmate" is a myth. But, I used to believe there was someone for everybody, and I still do. I'm just struggling with things like religion right now and trying to form my own ideas seperate from my all controlling mother. It's all Greek to me!  I believe in the tooth fairy.. Well DUH, the tooth fairy is REAL!!! I saw the movie!  ![[Linked Image from media.daemonsmovies.com]](http://media.daemonsmovies.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/Tooth-Fairy-Poster-3-310x500.jpg) Mrs. W
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I believe in the tooth fairy.. Well DUH, the tooth fairy is REAL!!! I saw the movie! I knew dis, MrsW. I felt it in my heart! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I believe in the tooth fairy.. Well DUH, the tooth fairy is REAL!!! I saw the movie! I knew dis, MrsW. I felt it in my heart! That was probably just gas - take a Tums!  Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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