i posted some stuff awile back about my marrige going down hill. basically we fixed alot of our promblems but stil do have some. her brother that she hasnt seen in 11 years came to stay with us for 1 week. the whole time she didnt talk to me or give me any attention, but i kinda understood because she was giving it to her bro. it kinda freaked me out a little bit but the were always laying together, cuddling, kinda flirting it seemed like... he always was texing her and saying come cuddle me and lay with me. it was very akward for me and i felt like i was the 3rd wheel. well i knew something was going on b.c she didnt talk to me for the whole week, and i kept asking her what was wrong and she never ansered me, just said nothing. i kept asking her about is, but i think i just annoyed her. she later told me that she didnt want to be with me and she felt like she was wasting her time. we have 2 kids together, and its going to be so hard. after she told me that i just grabbed my 2 year old son, went outside and held him in my arms hugging him, with tears pouring out of my eyes. he looked at me and said i love you daddy. from that moment i realized you might think that your life is wrecked, and there is not anything worth living; no matter how difficult you think you have it, and how bad you want to give up; always remember with the passion and tenderness care that you acquire from your son or daughter, your life could never get better. she is going to move about 3 hours away to her moms, and i guess i will just have to do everything in my power to see my son and daughter as much as possible.. alrigth im done rambling now...

Well, that is weird, don't ya think? How much older is he than your wife? VERY strange.

Have you consulted an attorney about stopping her from takining your kids 3 hours from you?

i dont know if that is normal, acting towards eachother like that. he is 17 and she is 22. maybe i am making a bigger deal than what it is.. i have talked to an attorney along time and he basically said that usually the wife gets the kids. i am the one that makes the money and pays the bills. she will be moving in with her mom with 4 other people in the house... i think i might have a chance of getting custody. since i am in school my att. did say that we could make her stay in the same county as me but i wouldnt want that b.c she would have no where to stay, and i would want to force her to stay somwhere when she doesnt want to be with me. i think it will just be worse on the kids maybe..

Including the brother???

You know, something is very wierd about how they behaved with each other and then how she acted toward you. Have they always been that close and cuddly with each other? Is it a full brother?

Again, sounds very wierd.

my wife mey him when he was like 6 years old and she hasnt seen him since then until now.. it is half brother.. its weird for me also lol..

I've read studies that show that when some siblings or parent/child reunite after many years (like an adopted person finding their birth parent), there is a surprising tendency for romantic or incestuous relationships to develop. Not the majority, of course, but well above the percentage from the general population. A variety of reasons factor into this unexpected attraction (more than my under-caffeinated brain can recall at this point).

So, considering the strangeness of the laying down together and cuddling, and the sudden desire to end your marriage, my squeamish meter is red lining right now. I hope events turn around and right themselves for you.

It's called "Genetic Sexual Attraction" and it's not uncommon. I visited a forum once for people experiencing GSA (out of curiosity!), and it was definately interesting reading.

Interesting tidbit on GSA. If I recall correctly, it typically occurs in people who are related but DIDN'T grow up together. We are conditioned against being attracted to those we are related to as we grow up together and around each other.

The fact that she hasn't seen him since he was 6 makes GSA a probability.

Thanks for putting the name to the phenomenon, RoughTime. I was having an extended "senior moment" and it was right there on the tip of my brain.