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I said in my first post, I agree with you - but your words will carry more weight if you bother to back them up.

This forum is for imparting Marriage Builder's advice. Knowing how much a person knows and how well they've implemented that advice is CRUCIAL to the weight of their words.

But whatever....


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My rant for this particular moment is about new posters who come in and obviously have never bothered to read the forum rules but just leave little piles of doo doo that upset people who are trying to get through an incredibly hard time.

My original rant for today smirk will just have to wait.


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Sometimes when someone hear's a rant they try to fix the source of the ranting. I know the rants about people not sticking to original post and not having a siggy was about me. Sorry for not sticking to one thread. It is tempting to start a new one about specific questions because you think the subject line will draw more attention. Selfish wayward behavior right.

Also, I added a siggy.



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Originally Posted by DancesWithGoats
My original rant for today smirk will just have to wait.


There isn't a limit on rants, is there?!?!? If there is there shouldn't be!

Rant away DWG! Rant away!


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Originally Posted by Vibrissa
Originally Posted by DancesWithGoats
My original rant for today smirk will just have to wait.


There isn't a limit on rants, is there?!?!? If there is there shouldn't be!

Rant away DWG! Rant away!

LOL, I will wait. I would rather not belabor the points smile

Besides, I have boots to clean.


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My rant for today is that so often here abuse complaints from WS and occasionally BS are ignored, dismissed or minimised.

There is no place where where a couple in an abusive relationship can feel safe to work on their M. Their M is quite often written off. I really think that with the right tools, their M can be saved and they can have a loving relationship.


or...

What was it that I said or did that meant I was allowed to hang around and work through my DV problem even though I was WW?

Can anyone post lists of MBers that have recovered from domestic violence and an A, or just domestic violence?

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Originally Posted by DancesWithGoats
My rant for this particular moment is about new posters who come in and obviously have never bothered to read the forum rules but just leave little piles of doo doo that upset people who are trying to get through an incredibly hard time.

My original rant for today smirk will just have to wait.

My Rant is that its not a rant to agree with this so I should just not post how true it is cuz it might start a chain reaction.

Good call DWG

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Originally Posted by u233sws
Sometimes when someone hear's a rant they try to fix the source of the ranting. I know the rants about people not sticking to original post and not having a siggy was about me. Sorry for not sticking to one thread. It is tempting to start a new one about specific questions because you think the subject line will draw more attention. Selfish wayward behavior right.

Also, I added a siggy.
I wasn't ranting about you...in fact, when I posted to your thread, I was unaware that you had multiple threads. Don't beat yourself up about it--I opened multiple threads myself when I first started. Then I realized how inefficient it was. Now, I only open threads when it's off topic and my "life story" thread(s) are way dormant. When I'm ready to re-evaluate, I'll dig one of them up. So don't beat yourself up about that. If you were to CONTINUE behavior after you've learned about the importance of one thread, THEN we'll rant about you! smile


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My rant for today...

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Postings that are eliminated by the moderators for whatever reason and that I did not get the opportunity to read them redflag rotflmao redflag!!!



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Originally Posted by hope3343
My rant for today...

*******edit*******

Postings that are eliminated by the moderators for whatever reason and that I did not get the opportunity to read them redflag rotflmao redflag!!!

rotflmao I agree. I'm like, "Dang! Missed another one!"


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Originally Posted by princessmeggy
Originally Posted by hope3343
My rant for today...

*******edit*******

Postings that are eliminated by the moderators for whatever reason and that I did not get the opportunity to read them redflag rotflmao redflag!!!
Me too! What the HECK did I miss? Can I get a HINT at least? Come on--enquiring minds want to know!!!

rotflmao I agree. I'm like, "Dang! Missed another one!"


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Originally Posted by princessmeggy
Originally Posted by hope3343
My rant for today...

*******edit*******

Postings that are eliminated by the moderators for whatever reason and that I did not get the opportunity to read them redflag rotflmao redflag!!!

rotflmao I agree. I'm like, "Dang! Missed another one!"

Sock Puppet, that is all it was, making doo doos all over.


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Well, do we have to post rules about rants? Just the nature of ranting will offend someone. I would think that keeping it away from personal names and specific situations should be good enough.

Rebutting a rant cuz you think its aimed at you is counter-productive, if it bugs ya quote it to your thread. If no names were used then it should work well to deal with it there, and you can straighten out if need be.

Most likely it will be a repeat topic anyways. People ussually do not say negative things here that they didn't allready say there. This isn't a bashing thread. Its for letting off steam.

So what should be the rules about the rant thread? I don't want to see it locked like the last one.

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Originally Posted by u233sws
Sometimes when someone hear's a rant they try to fix the source of the ranting. I know the rants about people not sticking to original post and not having a siggy was about me. Sorry for not sticking to one thread. It is tempting to start a new one about specific questions because you think the subject line will draw more attention. Selfish wayward behavior right.

Also, I added a siggy.

ACTUALLY, it wasn't about you specifically.


I am NOT the thread police, there are mods for that. There is NO rule on MB that says you CAN NOT start new threads. I was jut ranting about anyone who does it and doesn't have a siggy and multiple threads for each new question.

I can't always remember who is who and what has been done and so forth. especially when someone comes back after a few months and then I have NO CLUE. I am also a slow reader.


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I just HATE posters that feel the need to use stupid smiley faces constantly on their posts thinking that they are "cute" or "funny"...They are just damn annoying!!!!!!

PS...and NO, I will not mention the posters name...you guys will just have to figure it out on your own!!!!!


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Originally Posted by stillhere8126
I just HATE posters that feel the need to use stupid smiley faces constantly on their posts thinking that they are "cute" or "funny"...They are just damn annoying!!!!!!

PS...and NO, I will not mention the posters name...you guys will just have to figure it out on your own!!!!!

They should be shot!! grin


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by stillhere8126
I just HATE posters that feel the need to use stupid smiley faces constantly on their posts thinking that they are "cute" or "funny"...They are just damn annoying!!!!!!

PS...and NO, I will not mention the posters name...you guys will just have to figure it out on your own!!!!!

They should be shot!! grin


stickout Teeheehee...


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Ooh, ooh!

[Linked Image from bestsmileys.com]

It's me, I just know it is!

[Linked Image from bestsmileys.com]

I am sooooo digging these smileys!

[Linked Image from bestsmileys.com]

How could you not love these?? dontknow

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sigh Unfortunately its not just you using them Mrs Vanilla.


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Originally Posted by Mrs_Vanilla
How could you not love these?? dontknow

hurray

She is a lying dawg! She loves smilies! laugh


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