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A friend of mine was telling me about a article she read that related to people who have passive agressive disorder, and it talked about how they are more prone to infidelity. Now I know ANYONE can cheat, disorder or not, but do you feel there are some people who may be more prone to cheat than others if they do have a particular disorder etc? And yes, when its all said and done, it comes down to choice. To cheat or not to cheat
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IMO, passive/aggressive behaviour is learned behaviour. It's a form of severe emotional immaturity where a grownup uses lies, false promises and sneaky, slippery behaviour to do what they want without consequences.
Picture a sneaky 8-year-old who wants to steal cookies without getting caught by Mommy (even when she catches him red-handed), and you have P/A behaviour.
Normal adults learn to deal honestly with other people, even when it's difficult. P/As cling to their lies and false promises and blameshifting and conflict avoidance like little kids.
When you're comfortable lying and deceiving people, sure, that makes it easier to cheat your way through a marriage. P/A behaviour doesn't cause adultery, but it sure is a handy tool if you're already good at that behaviour.
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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You have to be careful diagnosing behaviors, because Passive Aggressive behavior is a personality problem, while an individual act or situation which may appear to exhibit the characteristics of PAB, is not.
There can be a lot of reasons for this particular similar behavior which is not part of their regular personality, and even if it is, may still not be PAB.
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