Sheryl,<BR>Hang in there. You have helped alot of people including me.<P>Give yourself a break and do something FUN for yourself. You do have to move forward on this.<P>God Bless!

Don't leave now! I just got here and our stories are so similar. Ready my reply to you on my thread. I need your help.<P>You are not alone. Maybe we can do this together!

Sheryl,<BR>Take a break, take some time for yourself. Remember, we are here for you....<BR>In God's eyes, we are all success stories.... even if we make mistakes along the way.<BR>My thoughts & prayers are with you,<BR>B

I empathize with all your feelings. <BR>I feel as though I could have written your letter. <BR>Good luck in doing what you have to do to make yourself new again. <P>The scarlet letter probally will never go away, but it can and make you better and stronger.<BR>Some one once said that a clay jar with a light shining in it isn't beautiful until it breaks a few times for the light to shine through it. (we are the clay jars and jesus is the light)<P>I don't know you very well but I am going to miss your post<BR>God bless<P>

New-Beginning: Looks like you received alot of supportive responses and of course I am enclosing my supportive response. I do not expect for you to reply, but I do expect you to hang in there and give yourself a pat on the back once and awhile. As a betrayer and numerous other human frailties, I have learned many lessons from my reckless behavior throughout my years. Call it lifelong learning. But one lesson of a few that I keep close to me is "never pass judgement on anyone no matter how bad the offense." I know that for some that is easier said than done especially for those who are on the receiving end of the deed. For me, however, I do not hear you (since I can't see you) with a Scarlet Letter. Since I am not a heavily religious person, I don't believe the higher being would see you with the big red A either. We are human, we are not perfect, we make mistakes and some of us learn from those mistakes. Ok, you've made an error, you have acknowledged your error and you are taking steps to learn from that error. Does that make you an evil person not worthy of love and respect? NO!!!!! The next time you feel your face on fire, look in a mirror or window or something that shows your reflection and tell yourself "I am loved" and like the commercial states "I am worth it" You may cry and have a hard time convincing yourself, but with time you will believe it. The person who loves you should always be yourself first and from what I hear, the higher being loves you too. I know we experience bad days, myself included, but we must hang on. Tomorrow will be a better day. I need to send this to myself as well. For not being heavily religious, my prayers are still with you and I know you will climb out of this valley. Good fortune and much love to you.

New_beginning,<BR>I hope that your time away is short. I haven't been a member long, but I have looked forward to comming and reading the wisdom in the posts. The strength that we get from one another is vital in our healing. I wouldn't be able to get through this without the support I find here. God go with you as you travel on your chosen path. We'll be here when you return, if you return. I hope that you do.<P>------------------<BR><BR>That Which does not kill us makes us stronger.<BR>

Dear New Beginning:<BR>Perhaps your nickname speaks for itself. I wish all the luck. Certainly we all need to take a break from here and life in general from time to time. My only way of escape is when I close my eyes, I am at an island so far far away from this marriage, problems, etc. Ahh, just wish it was true. Take care. Always remember that you can come back when your ready, all we'll be here...maybe not all of us in one piece, but we'll be here to hear your success story. You'll be missed.

Prayers for your sucess are being said.<P>You will be missed very much! You will also be in our thoughts. <P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

I will now let this thread die a natural death, but before I do...<P>I did read what each of you said, and I thank you all for taking the time to respond.<P>I felt better, lighter, today than I have in a while. Tired in a different way too. Like when you've been sick for a long time and can finally comfortably sleep. Maybe when things cool down a bit I will find that my H and I can make it.<P>Thanks again to all <P>~Sheryl

Sheryl, I so much thank you for your reply to my recent post. I haven't kept up much here, so I really am sorry to see you feel you need to take a break. Especially since I can use your help now. What with the mess I am in....<BR><BR>But you have to do what is right for you. God bless you, and I hope for happiness for you.

Sheryl,<BR> I just wanted to thank you for all your help in understanding my W's infidelity.You bared your soul here,and taken some heat for what you did,but you continued to come back and help other people in the same situation.I think for that you are to be commended.If you feel the need to leave,or just take a break,it's OK.Perhaps you feel the need to move on,and put this part of your life behind you.But if you ever want to come back and help out those of us who don't understand,or just to talk,feel free.Again,thank you for your help,and take care of yourself. --Murph