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You have VERY strong circumstantial evidence that he went to see OW.
You have absolute evidence that he has been untruthful.
You need more before confronting him or he will gaslight and twist things around to the point you are doubting the evidence right before your face.
Breathe. Calm down. Get more evidence.
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Pep, I was meaning I don't think I can get control right now. I can buy a GPS. I was answering your quote from before. Go for a brisk walk. Call your best friend. Take a shower and cry in there. Go have a mani-pedi.
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All the work we've done for 3 1/2 mos. I can't believe it. I think I'm in shock. I feel like I'm gonna be sick. I suck at acting, I am the worst liar. I'm afraid he'll know something is wrong the minute he comes home.
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All the work we've done for 3 1/2 mos. I can't believe it. I think I'm in shock. I feel like I'm gonna be sick. I suck at acting, I am the worst liar. I'm afraid he'll know something is wrong the minute he comes home. Tell him you feel sick. You think that you might be "coming down with a virus" ...
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Mindshare, thank you. He did tell me last night when he got home and gave me the card and flowers that he had lied in a text he had sent me. He texted me that he was leaving school now, @7:28, and when he got home he said he had to lie and he left earlier than that to get a hair cut and the gifts.
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Mindshare, thank you. He did tell me last night when he got home and gave me the card and flowers that he had lied in a text he had sent me. He texted me that he was leaving school now, @7:28, and when he got home he said he had to lie and he left earlier than that to get a hair cut and the gifts. He's clever. He confesses to something minor.
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He's concealing the big lie by admitting to a small lie and buying you off with gifts.
Common tactic for waywards.
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Mindshare and I both agree. Can't get better than that !  *LINK* to GPS website
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ugh.. I am so sorry, sunshine.
Please, please follow Pepperband's advice and get a GPS on his car and CALM DOWN.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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All the work we've done for 3 1/2 mos. I can't believe it. I think I'm in shock. I feel like I'm gonna be sick. I suck at acting, I am the worst liar. I'm afraid he'll know something is wrong the minute he comes home. Tell him you feel sick. You think that you might be "coming down with a virus" ... I am also not a good liar and also the type to wear her heart on her sleeve. Plan A taught me a lot about controlling my emotions. I did what PB suggest. Also I tried to keep myself busy and redirected. If you feel a crying spell come on, leave the room, do something with the kids, take a shower or go take a ride to do an errand. Keep telling yourself "I can do this".
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ugh.. I am so sorry, sunshine.
Please, please follow Pepperband's advice and get a GPS on his car and CALM DOWN. Mindshare/MelodyHellLane/Pepperband agree. Can't get better than that !
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I know, I know. I am having a hard time. I don't get it. Seriously. What more do I need to have before confronting? I was thinking I might message the POSOW on FB. I will do it right before WH comes home. The only way she can contact him is on his work cell. He always brings it home. I'm thinking if I contact her via FB, and something is going on, then she will call or text WH and tell him I messaged her. If I can get a hold of his phone before he sees the text, BAM!! I should have him! Does that make sense?
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All the work we've done for 3 1/2 mos. I can't believe it. I think I'm in shock. I feel like I'm gonna be sick. I suck at acting, I am the worst liar. I'm afraid he'll know something is wrong the minute he comes home. Tell him it's "THAT TIME" of the month, you're having 'female problems' and 'I don't feel well at all" .... Another female is 'female problems'. It is 'that time'. You do not 'feel well' ..... at ALL ! That way, you are not lying.
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sunshine, I don't think you are going to be able to hold back so here is my suggestion. Emailing the OW on facebook is not going to get it. Seeing a message from her is not going to do it. When he gets home tell him:
"I know all about last night. I know you lied about the classes and I know where you went. Do you have something you want to say?"
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Pep, you just made me giggle! (between crying of course!)
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I know, I know. I am having a hard time. I don't get it. Seriously. What more do I need to have before confronting? I was thinking I might message the POSOW on FB. I will do it right before WH comes home. The only way she can contact him is on his work cell. He always brings it home. I'm thinking if I contact her via FB, and something is going on, then she will call or text WH and tell him I messaged her. If I can get a hold of his phone before he sees the text, BAM!! I should have him! Does that make sense? You should not rely on OW doing anything. They will BOTH LIE. GPS GPS GPS Do NOT confront either of them ! EXPOSURE comes before any WH or OW confrontation. Understand?
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yep, it's gonna be a loooong weekend trying to hold in your emotions...might as well get to the bottom of it this evening...
Good luck
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No, do not message POSOW and no playing games to try and catch him. Just get the GPS and stick it on his car!
CALM DOWN!
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
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Mel, I'm so scared. Everything was good. You're right, I don't think I can wait. What if he makes up more lies? I obviously am not good at telling if he is lying or not. The only other thing I didn't mention, is I believe her family got kicked out of the apartment on July 26. According to court records. I don't know where she is now. She could be in the same vicinity, though. I have looked up all the court documents on POSOW, and this is like the 6th apartment she has gotten thrown out of for non-payment! Crazy B***ch!
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