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I told her that she planted herself firmly on his side.
True that
Originally Posted by Scotland
My stomach just spins thinking about Bampot doing that if he was to come home.
I don't see Bampot doing that, I see him one of us guys who doesn't like admitting he has made a mistake after he made a bunch of excuses in his head why it was right to leave you, thats assuming he really still has a conscience and that it was twisted like most waynurds. Then too somehow promising POSOW he wont leave cuz he thinks could never live down what has happened and he has a chance to have the "perfect" life with her he can keep pulling off the imaginary fairytale of being perfect, which of course she had been, or still is, encouraging him in. Lets hope she believed it instead of her being a lying manipulative cold hearted B$*th. Maybe she will be honest enough somewhere inside to see it wasn't "true love" (again ), instead of a coniving manipulative one who knows how to push his dumb male buttons and keep him to some bad promise. Like Mel says."The only thing worse than not keeping a promise is keeping a bad one" I don't think Bampot knows the difference right now, and his pride.. well we have had that convo..
If he can admit he needs help he understands how he hurt you. I see him as being guilty and quiet if anything, I don't know him, but if you loved him he must have been sensitive to those things at one time and know better than to talk about withdrawl crap. He will have to learn about it of course, but I hope he deals with it like a man who made a mistake and doesn't make you pay for it. In that way pride can work for him, he has a lot to make up for.
Originally Posted by Scotland
She is still upset that my Dad still says that he is separated.
Well at least he knows his wife is not with him emotionally. I wish he got some help with that, but its to close for you to deal with, and parents rarly listen to thier children about those things anyway.
Originally Posted by Scotland
It's not fun dealing with a wayward. I look at it as practice in patience for Bampot. Maybe, maybe not. It's practice none the less.
With all your learning and the humility you have shown mixed with your strong convictions I am sure you have what it takes to recover. What to be patient with and what not, and will be able to be a great help to him as he learns life is not all about him. Just keep punching that punching bag so you don't have to knock any sense into him untill he gets it, if he ever does.
I saw the pics, too, loved the one of the tree silhouette. One of the few advantages of having a waynerd mom at the same time as a waynerd husband, is that you already know that your fog detector is working. It will go off as surely for Bampot's fog as it already does for your mom.
Ya doin good, Scotty!
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb
Thanx. I was just playing around with the camera. My friends take even better pictures than I do. They have GREAT cameras and have a real talent for it. I will add them when I get them uploaded.
ok well since you started this new hobby thought maybe you'd like to do something fun with the photo's. Not that you have to just an idea. Some of the above are free some you have to pay for but you can win cash, silly prizes, and sometimes just to have the photo of the month.
Never know you may just grow up to be a photographer!
Truth can stand on it's own two feet....A lie needs support....FRM
i don't think photography is going to be more than a hobby for me, but you never know, do you? I have come to realize that when you throw it out there, you get an answer in a way you never imagined. When I made the goal to lose weight, I NEVER thought that I would be joining a boxing club. It works for me though. I am keeping my mind and life open to all of the wonderful possibilities.
Well, I am heading off to work and then camping until Monday morning. Don't miss me too much. I will DEFINITELY miss this place and all of you guys. It's gonna be a hard weekend. We are going to the camp grounds that we used to go to with Bampot. FULL OF TRIGGERS. I will get through though. I will be making memories with the kiddos to last a lifetime. Take care of my other thread for me. I am sure Mark will.
All of you take care, and know that I will be thinking about each and every one of you.
All of you take care, and know that I will be thinking about each and every one of you.
Is she gone?
PARTY on Scotty's thread !
Last edited by princessmeggy; 08/26/1012:50 PM.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* “In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story