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Wow, Mel - that really means a lot to me. Thank you smile


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
..WE were told that Plan A is "for you, to improve yourself." Remember that? And we were told not to expose because it is a lovebuster. crazy

Wow. lets see what was I doing in 2005? Yep I was doing just that, in the name of "covering" my wifes Sins and taking all the blame because it must be my fault. "If I wasn't such a crappy husband!!!"

Well its good to know that even if I had found MB then, and I of course would have agreed with the concepts, POJA, Love bank, Rad Honesty, UA time,etc., I would have been doing what was suggested from the vets then.

Although they might be telling me to leave cause of her alcohol issues. Thats a different world.


I do think that plan A can help us improve ourselves though, just not to the WS specifications if those demands fall outside of MB principles. Many times the improvments are to stand up for oneself and that improvement is noticed by the WS also. It just isn't liked because it rains on thier fantasy.

I believe in exposure. We all know that affairs thrive on secrecy. Breaking the fantasy that the waywards have that they sre entitled to live differently from everyone else and that they have no control over thier actions, feelings because ,"The world just doesn't understand us" is the best thing we can do for the fools.

I agree on one side giving being dangerous also, isn't that one reason most affairs start to begin with? When they look for love in the wrong places and maybe don't know what it is to begin with?


Thank God for MB


Me 56 Former BS
Widowed 5-17-09 --married 25 years.
4 children
DS-35 previous marriage--18-22 DGrandSons 6 and 4
Me former BS
DD-29 with DGDs 5 and 1yr
DSs 26 and 23
Teilhard de Chardin..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
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